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Geez, almost surreal to say it. I HAVE A DATE! Been 25 years, and I'm still pinching myself.

After talking with her on the phone, it was go for a date! I found a nice place for us on the 20th after work. It's a very classy rustic tavern, live band will be playing, they have incredible food, great wine list... Boy am I looking forward to this.

Only concern is the date is a week out, and it gives her plenty of time to back out... Should I contact her any more, leave it as is? I don't want to appear "clingy", but also don't want her to think I have forgotten about her either. Ideas?

Thank you!

Can't help with the advice. Just wanted to give you virtual fist bump.

A woman's perspective here, it would be nice to hear from my date a couple of times before the event. A text or email simply saying, "I'm looking forward to our date" or to check in and see how her day or weekend is going. She may be worried that you will back out too, you know. To me a phone call or two in a week's time feels about right and not clingy.

Can't help with the advice. Just wanted to give you virtual fist bump.

I am cosigning this as well! Have fun Shock!

So happy for you. I think reaching out between now and then is a good idea. Don't forget to let us know how the date goes.

I agree... don't not talk to her between now and the date. Have some small talk in the mean time. Let her know you're thinking of her, but don't be creepy!!

Can't wait to hear how it went!

Oh yeah, the date tonight....

WAS FANTASTIC!!! ... Just try and wipe that smile off my face! So laid back, easy conversation, no drama. Dang, so that is what a non psycho acting women is like.

We are going to get together again, and see where this goes. My expectations are in check, taking it as it comes, and simply enjoying the experience with transparency, honesty, and no B.S. Seems my NB is really underway, and I want to thank everyone here who helped me along, get where I am today. Thanks!