I would respond to the "we got here safely" - crickets to the rest.
When an affair partner moves in, a job opening is created.
this guy is kinda damned if he does and damned if he doesn't
Right you are. They are just damned.
I tend to lump all behaviour into one big box. "Oh he's being nice", "Oh he's being nasty". The nasty doesn't make me wonder about the nice nor does the nice make me wonder about the nasty.
That is just how he rolls - up one minute, down the next. I had to tolerate his moody biiiiiartch behaviour for almost a decade. I don't need to anymore - yay!
I tend to brace myself when he's being 'nice' because it usually means theres a big nasty coming my way.
'Nice' contact doesn't change the way you deal with it. Only things you need to acknowledge or respond to. Crickets to the rest.
This kind of shit can lead to another bout of the hideous 'what ifs'. I find the 'WTF-evers' are a good antidote.
[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 7:12 PM, June 14th (Friday)]