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User Topic: Update. I am truly happy
♀ 19690
Member # 19690
Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been away from here for a while, but I want to give everyone an update.

Its been 5 years since the first Dday and many millions more. Ashamed to say the last one was this last December. I know stupid stupid me. But to be super honest I felt so sorry for this person I thought it was the best for him. However that cost me my happiness my liberty and alot of tears...again.

Not suprisingly enough I found him "chating" texting some new girl and that was my card out I had a good enough "excuse" and reason to kick his ass out for the millionth time without asking for any explanation wich he has tried over and over and over to do and I just don't want to hear it. I don't care!!

I got right back on the horse I had left when I took X back. However I felt I was right back where I had left last time. I moved on and at turbo speed. No pain no suffering as other times.
I started to live life just like I had before I let him come back into it and even better.

In march I got a new car for myself one I had been wanting for years. I got my groove back. Have been enjoying every moment of every day. I am sorrounded only by people that truly love me and respect me so much.

During this time I got the news that X was to marry and I felt absolutly nothing. I wished him the best and let him be on his way. The kids where at the wedding. wich I have to say was very rushed, but oh well thats him. I saw pictures and I can't lie it stung a little I cried...for about a minute then I moved right along.

I don't think about him I try to have the least contact as possible. I let the kids handle more things with him now and thats working out for me.

The kids are now 11 and 8 and I enjoy them and our time so much more, we have fun and laugh and play.

I have been dating a bit, giving myself the opportunity to meet alot of new people new places and it is absolutly great. I know my heart is damaged but I am absolutly sure it can and will love again. I can feel the warmth in it again.
Recently I met someone that had made me feel the butterflies,the nervousness the happiness. Its too soon to determine where it is going, but I hope he's in my life for a very very long time.
I can now say I survived this horrible experience and I am truly happy.

I just want everyone know its all about time time time.

Everything does get better.

There is hope.

Thank you so much for all of the support the strength and the love.
Thank you so much SI

Me BGF28
XBF 29
DD 10
DS 7

“Was it hard?" I ask.
Letting go?"
Not as hard as holding on to something that wasn't real.”
― Lisa Schroeder

Posts: 532 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Arizona
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so happy for you

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

Posts: 25302 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona
♀ 28622
Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this! Good to "see" you and to get the update. I wish you all the best and many many more positive updates!

Me: 45, independent, happy, despite parallel parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 15 DS 12
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 7052 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great update!

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3640 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

Posts: 40250 | Registered: Aug 2011
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, June 14th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great update!!

Failure is success if we learn from it.

3 boys: 11, 9, and 1.

Posts: 4799 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
♀ 35695
Member # 35695
Default  Posted: 12:42 AM, June 15th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 493 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
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