Sounds like you have a direction and a target date to remove yourself from the situation. If you havent checked out the 180 (http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/faq_bs.asp#FAQ11) you might want to as that might help keep you from becoming engage in fights with him. If he gets threatening or violent. Call the police or seek out help from a shelter. Do not stay in that element.
Sending good thoughts and mojo so that the days go back quickly until you can get into your own place.
Please do look up the 180 on the link given and live it until you leave. The only things you should be communicating with him are finances and child care arrangements. And you should work out a schedule for responsibility for the children times when he is in charge of them and when you are. When you are, leave. The kids are his to watch, you go and take a walk, see your friends, enjoy a hobby. That's part of being a single parent, he gets to deal with his children all by himself. Time to open his eyes up to the consequences of his actions. (((hugs)))
D-Day, June 10, 2012
I admire your strength to know that you are not willing to live with what has happened...you will continue to be strong. Sounds like you've been through a lot and your kids are number 1...you are too so take care of yourself too!
Keep your head high and build that new life!