I'm so darned frustrated. I feel like all the lies will never end.. I found out a few weeks ago that my SIL had unfriended me on Facebook. She had kept me for so long, and I was tempted to ask her why, but I didn't..
I know I shouldn't have, but since his Facebook is public, I looked at it and saw that 9 people posted him happy birthday messages (including MOW telling him, "HAPPY BIRTHDAY SUCKA!!!!!!" Classy right? And another married ho-worker he admitted to only "kissing" and an EA, but they stopped since they knew it was wrong. Well duh, and probably another lie). Then I see SIL posted some long happy birthday speech telling him how much she loves him and he's a great man and father and "don't let all this bullshit ruin your day or any other day." I'm assuming she's talking about our mediation earlier this week that ended with no agreement and a trial date set for the end of July. I know I shouldn't reach out to her, but I just want to scream from the rooftops that he's a lying NPD asshole, and I want everyone to know it! All the lies he spews at me in emails, the ones I keep rolling my eyes at, I'm now realizing are what he's telling his family, MOW, everyone. It's complete bull!!
They were my family for so long, and it just hurts to have these people I cared about so much not even think to ask me if what he is saying is true. He keeps playing this "poor me" card, and he makes himself out to be a victim when he's the abusive one! It's so crazy making, and I feel like I'm living in a dream world and don't know how to get out..
Apparently he doesn't tell everyone how he owes me thousands in back child support, he's STILL trying to hide his pension plan, he puts the kids in the middle of everything, he's a sick twisted fuck who abuses the children under the premise of "horseplay," he's on his fourth financial affidavit, lowering his hours and income every time, he's letting our house go into foreclosure, he hasn't cleaned the house or mowed or pulled weeds or anything, and I'm guessing his family has no clue that MOW is there every damn time he has the kids. I bet they don't even know that he had involved the kids for over a year with her and had them lie to me about it and keep it a secret. I'm never gonna get over that one..
I guess I should be more thankful for my new lawyer. He really gets the situation and understands what I'm dealing with. I guess it's because I keep forwarding all our emails and texts to him, so he sees what's going on.. And he filed 3 motions including contempt against STBX today. I just really need all this to matter.. Maybe I will get my wish of completely exposing him, especially given the fact that I've kept everything to text and email and refused to talk on the phone or see him in person. And I'm betting he deletes his texts to me right after he sends them. I'm sure he can't risk MOW seeing the truth..
He actually left mediation on Tuesday and emailed me later that the kids are sad because of what I'm doing, and I was like WHY DO THE KIDS KNOW??? He's constantly accusing me of putting them in the middle, but he just fucking put them there! Again! I have like 20 texts and emails where he admits to telling them stuff they shouldn't know, like how he's dating someone, how he's spent so much money on a lawyer, how it's "okay" for him to change the schedule through my son.. I guess I should be thankful he's so stupid to keep admitting it (while giving me bullshit reasons why it's my fault), but I wish it wouldn't happen in the first place.. My poor kids are being put through the ringer. I don't want to tell them too much, but I just have to correct them when they are upset with me because of his lies.
He was also dicking me around about what time to pick them up after mediation, so I brought my dad to get them (who stayed in the car and said and did nothing), and then STBX texted him and my mother all these atrocious messages calling them hypocritical Christians and cursing them out and then calling my dad a "chicken shit" for not responding. His lack of appreciation for my parents and all the times they helped us over the last decade is so unbelievable. But I forwarded screenshots of those texts to my lawyer, and he emailed me back, "Wow. Excellent for you."
Divorcing a personality disordered person is truly a lot harder than I thought. I guess I have to wait till the end of July to expose him, but I don't want to wait one more second. I'm so sick of people pitying him when they have no idea how he has been treating me..
[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 1:05 AM, June 15th (Saturday)]