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papoula posted 6/15/2013 11:18 AM

I just want to give people who are going through the first days some hope. I'm only 56 days since D day and I'm not 100% ok. I'm still hurt and confused but the extreme pain, shock and desperation from the first weeks are gone, thank Lord!

During the first days I couldn't function at all. Now I'm not constantly hurting. I used to have a pain in my chest that would not go away and it was even hard to breath.

I'm still thinking about leaving my H. I still can't see reconciliation for us and I keep thinking and planning my life without him in my mind.

Things I have done that I think it helped:

I bought some audiobooks and they were amazing. Audiobooks are great if you are having difficulties with concentration and focus.

I started IC, but I'm not very happy with how is going overall.

I started to take St. John's Wort and I believe that have helped me tremendously with depression and anxiety.

I joined a gym started to work out.

I started to go to a spiritual meetings and Alanon meetings.

I'm searching for jobs.

My husband wants reconciliation and even though he refuses to talk about what happened I believe this is helping me.

I just wanted to give some hope for people that are going through this. Hang in there everyone because it does get better

painpaingoaway posted 6/15/2013 11:32 AM

Wonderful papoula! Glad you are hanging in the there. Those are all wonderful suggestions for newbies to hear. And this is something I had never considered, but a great idea:


I bought some audiobooks and they were amazing. Audiobooks are great if you are having difficulties with concentration and focus.

papoula posted 6/15/2013 12:07 PM

painpain I couldn't read or concentrate at all so I bought those books at Amazon: Too Good to Stay, Too Bad to Leave and Not Just Friends (someone from here suggested). The first book is excellent, it makes you re-think your whole relationship, the good and the bad. The second I'm still listening to it and at first I didn't like but after the 2 first chapters I loved it.

I bought those books on Amazon, they have an app called audible. The first month was free and I could get those two books on the first month trial.

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