I haven't been here in a LONG time but I can't tell you how reassured I was to find that I could just log back in and post when I felt myself triggering.
Aside from the A, porn has been a big issue in our marriage. Someone here once stated, "it is not a friend of the marriage" and that is what I thought we had agreed to as a couple.
My husband recently had to replace his phone. When we connected to the computer, it gave me the option to go to a back up point for his phone from last fall and install everything from that point so he wouldn't lose his photos of our child. In among the photos was a very busty girl, amateur photo, half-dressed.
I freaked. He freaked out because I was freaking out. I did a google search on the image and found it all over the internet--lots of people claiming it was their girlfriend or their ex.
It doesn't appear that he took this photo himself. However, it does appear that he at the very least looked at it and saved it to his phone. His answer is that a friend must have texted it to him and when he opened it, it saved to his phone. I don't know if that's how texting works or not because it's not something that I do. I was hoping someone else would know how an image can be saved on your phone. Do texts automatically save the images in your photos or do you have to find them on the internet and intentionally save them?
I'm tired of perfectly reasonable explanations and have difficulty accepting them at this stage.