A few questions...
I have not confronted an EA and possible PA.
Can you be set against R and be very certain about it? I just cannot see anything positive with continuing our relationship.
I know for a fact he would think him having an EA was silly. He would not participate in MC or IC and would get irate that I would tell him to stop his "friendship" with OW. He would blame my A for his EA. He would tell lies to family and friends to make him look like the victim and I'm ruining the relationship and messing up the kids.
So why should I even consider R if I know he will do the above actions?
I just want to have my own life with my children. I'm tired of hearing him yell and his controlling ways.
Can I be so sure without even confronting? I don't think he could say anything to change how I feel.