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Mrs Panda (original poster member #27303) posted at 5:11 AM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
She is the grandmother who was the most fun growing up. She was the pianist. She is beautiful and amazing and she was my idol.
She broke her hip falling in the bathroom.
She takes no meds. No (known) medical probs. A real trooper.
I know a hip fracture can be the beginning of the end. I mean, jeez, she is almost 100 years old.
I love her. She is so wicked smart. I don't want her ti die yet. Maybe she would disagree though. Maybe she's tired.
Me-48 FWW Him 51BH
M 20 years,. Fully Reconciled ❤️.
DDay#1 Nov 2008
DDay#2 Aug 2009 (Prior A from 2001)
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ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 5:25 AM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
(((Mrs.Panda)))
Sending healing mojo for your grandma.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 5:35 AM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
(((Mrs. Panda))) Hugs and healing prayers. She sounds beautiful and amazing and strong. no meds?? sheesh... wish I could say the same.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
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fallingquickly ( member #36599) posted at 5:39 AM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Hugs to you both and major mojo.
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 11:32 AM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Sending good thoughts to you and your grandma.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 12:01 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Ah, sweetie, I know you're trying to be realistic, but don't give up hope. My grandmother broke her hip at 90 and survived & thrived for another 9 years.
Sending grandma and you lots of mojo.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
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D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 3:46 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
(((MP+Gma)))
Sounds like my mom, no meds and lived to see her 90th after two hip breaks.
The first one only slowed her down a bit.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:52 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Sending mojo. ((((MP & grandma))))
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 4:31 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
(((Mrs.Panda & grandma)))
Sending healing mojo
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 5:34 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
(((Mrs. P and Grandma))) Good thoughts and prayers for peace and comfort. I've cared for many elders who've thrived after hip fracture; that she is hardy and strong is huge. That, rather than age, is the biggest predictor of outcome.
Will you be able to see her?
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
Mrs Panda (original poster member #27303) posted at 3:29 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Thanks:)
I flew in tonight and saw her for several hours. Back tomorrow for surgery. She is is real firecracker, and was telling off the nurses for inadequate pain control, etc etc. Oh dear. I don't think she's their favorite patient. 
Me-48 FWW Him 51BH
M 20 years,. Fully Reconciled ❤️.
DDay#1 Nov 2008
DDay#2 Aug 2009 (Prior A from 2001)
"Those who believe in telekinetics, raise my hand." -Kurt Vonnegut
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 4:18 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Your Grandma sounds wonderful.
I hope she has a speedy recovery.
And tuff shit if she's not the nurses favorite patient. She's 99! She's allowed to be ornery! She's also in pain 
JustDone ( member #9742) posted at 4:33 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Good for Grandma sticking up for herself. I hope the surgery today goes well. Sending lots of:
Madhatter
Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 7:46 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
(((and super MOJO))))
Hips are not like they used to be, and are routinely repaired, and survived well after.
You do need to be prepared for her to have a stay at rehab though after. She needs to get used to the idea too.
As I do Care Management now, I find that when I tell folks you can't go home until you get strong enough to go potty on your own again they don't trust you. Tell her that she is going so she can go back home, and be independent again. Tell her insurance wouldn't pay for it, if they were putting her there to spend the rest of her days there. (THIS IS THE TRUTH).
((((and strength and MOJO))))
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simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 7:53 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
I'm sorry to hear this. Don't give up hope, though. My neighbor had a double hip replacement. She had a home physical therapist come in and she's doing well. She still lives on her own, drives, walks to the mailboxes (we live in a condo community), does her own grocery shopping etc...
Your grandmother sounds like she is very strong.
Sending (((HUGS))), strength and lots and lots of healing mojo 
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
click4it ( member #209) posted at 12:18 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
Lots of Mojo mrs panda and ((((((hugs)))))
Our grandmas must be twins - mine is 99 and real firecracker as well. She's a hit where ever she goes.
Your gramdma is a tough cookie!
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Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 1:48 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013
Much mojo for your Grandmother! My Grandmother is turning 96 this year and you'd best not get in HER way! I just mailed her a whole mince pie she loves them, can't find them where she's at, and a fantastic Scottish bakery just opened by my work. Thinking that this will be a once a month food package for her!
Dang, sorry for the TJ. I hear Grandmother and my mind just goes racing! 
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
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Mrs Panda (original poster member #27303) posted at 12:32 AM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Thanks everyone )
She is finally sleeping. Wore herself out. She (almost) stood today.
She expects someone to be with her 24-7 which is impossible, as my mom and dad have to sleep, and when I go home tomorrow it's just them.
She made my mom cry because she said she didn't love her because she had to go home to rest.
Every little noise makes her jump and scream.
She has some confusion, and I try to explain this to my mom, who refuses to admit that she is confused.
Sigh.
Me-48 FWW Him 51BH
M 20 years,. Fully Reconciled ❤️.
DDay#1 Nov 2008
DDay#2 Aug 2009 (Prior A from 2001)
"Those who believe in telekinetics, raise my hand." -Kurt Vonnegut
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 12:53 AM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
One of the things I found out is that anaesthesia can accelerate mental confusion in the elderly.
After her second hip replacement my mom started leaving messages on my answering machine. One was quite intriguing, about the fairies at the bottom of her garden.
God love them, ageing is not for the faint of heart.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
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