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Mrs Panda posted 6/15/2013 23:11 PM

She is the grandmother who was the most fun growing up. She was the pianist. She is beautiful and amazing and she was my idol.

She broke her hip falling in the bathroom.

She takes no meds. No (known) medical probs. A real trooper.

I know a hip fracture can be the beginning of the end. I mean, jeez, she is almost 100 years old.

I love her. She is so wicked smart. I don't want her ti die yet. Maybe she would disagree though. Maybe she's tired.

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 6/15/2013 23:25 PM

(((Mrs.Panda)))

Sending healing mojo for your grandma.

caregiver9000 posted 6/15/2013 23:35 PM

(((Mrs. Panda))) Hugs and healing prayers. She sounds beautiful and amazing and strong. no meds?? sheesh... wish I could say the same.

fallingquickly posted 6/15/2013 23:39 PM

Hugs to you both and major mojo.

authenticnow posted 6/16/2013 05:32 AM

Sending good thoughts to you and your grandma.

Sad in AZ posted 6/16/2013 06:01 AM

Ah, sweetie, I know you're trying to be realistic, but don't give up hope. My grandmother broke her hip at 90 and survived & thrived for another 9 years.

Sending grandma and you lots of mojo.

FaithFool posted 6/16/2013 09:46 AM

(((MP+Gma)))

Sounds like my mom, no meds and lived to see her 90th after two hip breaks.

The first one only slowed her down a bit.

nowiknow23 posted 6/16/2013 09:52 AM

Sending mojo. ((((MP & grandma))))

jo2love posted 6/16/2013 10:31 AM

(((Mrs.Panda & grandma)))

Sending healing mojo

solus sto posted 6/16/2013 11:34 AM

(((Mrs. P and Grandma))) Good thoughts and prayers for peace and comfort. I've cared for many elders who've thrived after hip fracture; that she is hardy and strong is huge. That, rather than age, is the biggest predictor of outcome.

Will you be able to see her?

Mrs Panda posted 6/16/2013 21:29 PM

Thanks:)
I flew in tonight and saw her for several hours. Back tomorrow for surgery. She is is real firecracker, and was telling off the nurses for inadequate pain control, etc etc. Oh dear. I don't think she's their favorite patient.

itainteasy posted 6/17/2013 10:18 AM

Your Grandma sounds wonderful.

I hope she has a speedy recovery.

And tuff shit if she's not the nurses favorite patient. She's 99! She's allowed to be ornery! She's also in pain

JustDone posted 6/17/2013 10:33 AM

Good for Grandma sticking up for herself. I hope the surgery today goes well. Sending lots of:

tushnurse posted 6/17/2013 13:46 PM

(((and super MOJO))))

Hips are not like they used to be, and are routinely repaired, and survived well after.
You do need to be prepared for her to have a stay at rehab though after. She needs to get used to the idea too.
As I do Care Management now, I find that when I tell folks you can't go home until you get strong enough to go potty on your own again they don't trust you. Tell her that she is going so she can go back home, and be independent again. Tell her insurance wouldn't pay for it, if they were putting her there to spend the rest of her days there. (THIS IS THE TRUTH).

((((and strength and MOJO))))

simplydevastated posted 6/17/2013 13:53 PM

I'm sorry to hear this. Don't give up hope, though. My neighbor had a double hip replacement. She had a home physical therapist come in and she's doing well. She still lives on her own, drives, walks to the mailboxes (we live in a condo community), does her own grocery shopping etc...

Your grandmother sounds like she is very strong.

Sending (((HUGS))), strength and lots and lots of healing mojo

click4it posted 6/17/2013 18:18 PM

Lots of Mojo mrs panda and ((((((hugs)))))

Our grandmas must be twins - mine is 99 and real firecracker as well. She's a hit where ever she goes.

Your gramdma is a tough cookie!

Skan posted 6/17/2013 19:48 PM

Much mojo for your Grandmother! My Grandmother is turning 96 this year and you'd best not get in HER way! I just mailed her a whole mince pie she loves them, can't find them where she's at, and a fantastic Scottish bakery just opened by my work. Thinking that this will be a once a month food package for her!

Dang, sorry for the TJ. I hear Grandmother and my mind just goes racing!

Mrs Panda posted 6/18/2013 18:32 PM

Thanks everyone )

She is finally sleeping. Wore herself out. She (almost) stood today.

She expects someone to be with her 24-7 which is impossible, as my mom and dad have to sleep, and when I go home tomorrow it's just them.

She made my mom cry because she said she didn't love her because she had to go home to rest.

Every little noise makes her jump and scream.

She has some confusion, and I try to explain this to my mom, who refuses to admit that she is confused.
Sigh.

FaithFool posted 6/18/2013 18:53 PM

One of the things I found out is that anaesthesia can accelerate mental confusion in the elderly.

After her second hip replacement my mom started leaving messages on my answering machine. One was quite intriguing, about the fairies at the bottom of her garden.

God love them, ageing is not for the faint of heart.