(((All my hugs)))
It must be very difficult
To be a man in grief,
Since "men don't cry" and "men are strong"
No tears can bring relief.
It must be very difficult
To stand up to the test
And field calls and visitors
So she can get some rest.
They always ask if she's all right
And what she's going through
But seldom take his hand and ask,
"My friend, but how are you?"
He hears her crying in the night
And thinks his heart will break
And dries her tears and comforts her
But "stays strong" for her sake.
It must be very difficult
To start each day anew
And try to be so very brave ~
He lost his baby too. . .
Author: Eileen Knight Hagemeister
to her son-in-law after his baby girl was born still
www.compassionatefriends.org
Thank you for what you did/and still do. We could have not made it without you. While I am D'ed and here on SI, it does not change the fact what he did for me all those years ago. Things changed A LOT in the years since, obviously, because today he is celebrating or will celebrate at some point with the whore and her boys.
I wonder if he thinks of Nemo ... I wonder if he knows just how much he saved me, how much I loved him and appreciated/needed him ...
Struggling to maintain N/C today ... The Black Forest Fire again burning my home/neighborhood, Father's Day and today would have been our 12yr Anni ... Bad day ...
Thankfully the fire is well under control and no one I know was injured or lost any thing ... But it still takes a toll to watch your home town burn ...
And last year at this time was Waldo Canyon fire ... Again burning my home town, but I broke N/C last year, he was activated to provide support for looters and almost had to evac my mom
And that broken N/C led to a lot of broken N/C in July/August ... Wound up being a closure and I feel/felt ok about it.
1 yr later I am facing the trifecta ... I want to send him the poem
I started writing this to post into OT ... Hmmmm ... somehow I think I should copy/paste this to Gen ...
Anyway ... Small vent there emotional out burst ...
This is for the Dad's on SI, or the SO's of members here who have lost a child. Thank you.