i should add that even prior D-day if he was home and i wanted to go out he would gladly watch the children to let me so maybe slightly less justified in feeling ive been left holding the baby,, but then the nights i was home alone exhausted thinking he was at wok, make me feel completely justified again. the most painful was the night i was asking him to hurry home as i was scared for the baby and wanted to go o the hospital(pregnant at the time) and he said hed been held up by an incident at work and couldn't come home yet when he was actually with her, we had suffered a miscarriage only months earlier so i was in a right state.
sorry i digress,,, the whole infidelity seems to be more on my mind the last few days more than it has been in a while, and im still just as confused i think,,,,,,
[This message edited by seekingtomorrow at 12:09 PM, June 16th (Sunday)]
While he is at it, he can write a check to his children as well- taking money out of their pockets to spend on trash. What a total waste. Meanwhile, so save, he can bring his lunch from home instead of going out, he can take the bus, and he can not buy "man toys" like the next Xbox to entertain himself.
I say go for it- don't even ask him for a check. Spend what you want on YOU and if he asks, give him your justification.
"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."
sadly boy toys are part of his job so i can't really say no to those lol,
Finally divorced Jul/17
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!
It is also going on here, too, even with complaints for "expenses" that he created by going to live "there".
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.