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missmydogs (original poster member #36559) posted at 10:26 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
I'm so excited! It's been a long time coming. I am getting a nice settlement from his 401k. That will help the kids and I rebuild. I no longer have any anger towards my X. I can honestly say I am looking forward to coparenting w him. I'm comfortable with this new normal. I'm not envious of his GF/OW. I know what it's like being married to him.
The only thing I kick myself for is this. I wish I married a better man. Next time I will do better. I know better now.
So here's to new beginnings! 
Me 36
DS 16
DD 4
Divorced!
I've made a huge mistake - GOB
Dark Inertia ( member #30727) posted at 10:34 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
LOL, I clicked on this thread expecting to read something along the lines of "I am depressed, never thought it would end this way" type of post. Your thread is refreshing. Congratulations!!
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 10:52 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Congrats on your new beginning!!!
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 11:01 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
I'm happy for your New Beginning. Best wishes!
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 11:18 PM on Sunday, June 16th, 2013
Congrats!! Wishing you a fabulous NB. 
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 1:21 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
I'm glad for you and will admit to being a little bit envious!
I am nodding at the things you wrote, but I struggle with grief and am trying to figure out what it's for? Finally I'm aware of about 90% of what STBX has done, but I can't rid myself of the grief. It's 5.5 months from Dday for me.
Any ideas are welcome. My goal is to get to the point you are at emotionally, MMD, but I don't know how to keep the more pleasant feelings.
Is it easier to do when knowledge of a final settlement comes?
And I wish you luck.
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
Coraline ( member #36434) posted at 1:47 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
missmydogs (original poster member #36559) posted at 4:07 AM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Thanks for all your kind words! I can't tell you how much I admire all of you!
Ash- It has been almost 3 years for me now. Your wound is still fresh. And you're expecting a baby! You are doing so well, I'm in awe of your strength! I went through all the emotions you are. It's such a difficult time. You will get where I am. I promise. Yes a lot of it has to do with knowing where I stand financially. And now the fighting is over. It's just calm now. You will find your way here soon. Sending you warm thoughts, peace, and hugs.
Me 36
DS 16
DD 4
Divorced!
I've made a huge mistake - GOB
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 7:47 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
Congratulations! You're off to a great new beginning already.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
numbandnauseous ( member #34525) posted at 7:56 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2013
mmd - so good to hear! You sound like you are in a really great place and you are an inspiration to those of us who still have to go through what you have.
Here's a toast to your new beginning! (no "toast" emoticon, sorry!)
BS (me) - 50
WH - 58, EA with HS GF x 2, now deceased
M: 15 years, T: 20, divorced
2 teenage children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
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