We are 14 months out from DDay but have been long time lurkers. If it wasn't for this site & all the wonderful advice you all share, I seriously believe we wouldn't have made it this far!
My Husband to be had a ONS with a friend by association. He is doing his damnest to help me heal with this double betrayal & also learning a great deal from the 'down' days we both have.....which for me seem to be coming back a little too often than expected
The OW still denies to this Day that 'anything' happened at all!!! Still proclaims her innocence to her husband ( I called him 6 weeks after DDay & he mentioned he had thought of hiring a PI years ago on her....wish he had of as this seems to be her lifestyle to this day & I have witnessed her in action) I believe she has lots of personality traits of a sociopath & obviously I blame my FWS for putting us in this hell hole! BUT.....& I'm not excusing his bad behaviour by any means, he has owned his part & wanted to express his apologies right from the start to her husband & still does.
So I feel like I'm really struggling that there has been not one iota of remorse from 'my friend' which understandably won't happen until she stops lying.....& that will never happen even if every Man she has targeted showed up at her doorstep & confessed! I'm soo soo angry with her, angry at him for accepting her aggressive advances & I want her to stop driving near my home.....she has the excuse that she takes her kids to school that way ( but there is other roads she could take & how dare I ask that of her....apparently it was 'gold' that I make such a request!!!)
When I confronted her she denied denied denied & became very snakey with me.I then asked if her husband knew about all her 'other' rendezvous & the truck driver she was meeting when he was in town......ooh then she let me know just how important our 'friendship' was to her & the crocodile tears started! My names Tilly not silly love lol! Her mask was falling off & she knew it!
This has affected a friendship of mine, a mutual friend of mine & OW's & I truly believe the OW may have felt threatened by me not sure why but just a feeling I get, part of the destruction is I have now no contact with that friend! Guess she felt put in the middle?
I know the ONS would have left this OW worse for wear as apparently my WS did not complete the 'job' & told her to 'stop'.....not something she would have been used to & kind of explains the early stalking of driving slooowly past our house! I struggle with the lack of conscience of what she's done, her nasty comments to me like 'everything is always about you ( me) & why didn't I ask how her sick Dad was while I was standing in a freezing car park begging her to tell me the truth about her & my WS!!!! Stupid me even apologised for that.....trying to appeal to the narcissist that she is ewwww! Epic fail on my behalf!
Suppose I'm just ranting & probably not making much sense with my waffling......but guess we have to start somewhere eh?