Inlaws are madhatters. both are (I believe) NPD. WS is starting to see the issue's but doesn't have a backbone. WS laid down some boundaries, but, they broke them. They blame everything on me, so, I haven't talked to them in a year. They know of the A's from rumors.
I found out a few weeks ago that MIL is coming on the 22nd of June to the country we now live in (for WS job) to go on a cruse, with a friend. This is her home country, lots of friends and family here. We are going back to our house in the states for the summer in two weeks. Thought that I was not going to have to deal with her.
Last night, my WS asks if it's ok to invite her over to see our new house. I will be in the states. (Major trigger for me, because she has criticized my house keeping before.) I got quiet. He told me that I am the most important thing to him, and it's up to me. Well, I couldn't sleep last night and had to talk myself out of a panic attack. Asked more questions this morning, and wouldn't you know it, she is arriving early, today! 5 days early. My gut says to not let her come to the house. My family can have dinner out with her. I hope she doesn't start a family feud. Why, do I always look like the bad guy?