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JanaGreen posted 6/17/2013 11:01 AM

ugh. There's some uncertainty in my company right now (people are going to get laid off, we just don't know when or who) and a lot of my coworkers have just joined LinkedIn. I was scrolling through LinkedIn's recommendations, looking for and adding people I knew, and something told me OK, that's enough, stop scrolling now. You'll be sorry if you don't.

Of course I kept on. And was rewarded by my H's ex, who was one of his chatty little text/FB buddies during the time we were planning to divorce. No, they didn't ever meet up, but he told me that talking to her was an ego boost for him - he was anxious about being single and talking to her felt good because she is someone he "knew he could get if he wanted." Ugh. But what upset me is that she's now working in my previous industry, and my beloved former manager is one of her contacts (along with my old boss and some other management from that company). For some reason it just really upset me that my old manager is a connection of hers - even though LinkedIn is not personal and I accept pretty much every request I get. How dare she invade my life on that front, too? (I know that's illogical - my husband was the one who offended - not her).

Ugh. Ugh. Ugh. And if I DO lose my job here and get another one via my previous connections - there's a chance I might have to cross paths with her. Ugh. Ugh. UGHUGHUGHUGHUGH.

LA44 posted 6/17/2013 12:24 PM

((JanaGreen)) You need a hug!

LA

JanaGreen posted 6/17/2013 13:44 PM

Thanks LA!

What really gets my goat is that she'll see now that I viewed her profile, and what a WONDERFUL excuse for her to text my H. So I'll be sure to tell him that I saw her profile and why.

So now I keep thinking of how payroll ho told him that I'd looked at her linkedin account and he was mad at me for it. Ummm the only reason I looked at it was that he kept googling it.

twodoves posted 6/17/2013 14:00 PM

I hate linkedin!

One of the OW kept showing up on WH's profile as ' people who have searched for WH have also searched for:'

He deleted that profile and made a new one ( he still has one because he's looking for a new job), but every time he gets a notification that an anonymous person has looked at his profile i always wonder if it's one of the OW.

JanaGreen posted 6/17/2013 14:13 PM

I emailed him that his ex came up on my linked in and he said, "Who?"

LOL duh.