Ok, so my husband and I were high school sweet hearts and went our seperate ways in college. WE were both athletes and went where the money ways. We soon broke up because I had to get my head in the game. I ran track, so it was easier for me to make a stab at the pros than he would have in basketball.
During this time, he dropped out of college, got a chick preggo and married her. I heard abt this through the grapevine, but it was 2004, and an olympic year so I give two flips!!! Anywho, before trials, I fell and tore my ACL, and that was the end of my chances to be an olmpican...(that year anyway).
I went back home and saw him out and about, we chatted a bit and I kept it moving. He called my moms house and we chatted it up some more. He was still married, so I always kept the convo VERY short. About 6mos after that, he said he and ole girl got a divorce, so we chatted up some more...I had a feeling he wasnt telling the whole truth, but I wasnt about to be inspecture Clue-so to find out. But I had a feeling......Well, we ended up getting back together and it wasnt until after i got preggo, that the divorce was actually final.
Now for my bus hit....Essentially, that is what is happening to me. We werent formally separated, but when he left the house, he pretty much gave the chick he was cheating with a trial run to see if it would work out. It didnt, so he wants to come back now. The only saving grace for me is that he was actually separated, but of course not fully divorced, and like i said, I had an idea, but I wrote the story in my head to make ME look better vs seeing what I was really looking at.
So now, he says he loves me because; and I quote: "Becaue we have history, because you are smart, beautiful, understanding, and you gave me children."
Sorry, but none of that means anything. During an exercise at work, I got those same compliments from FEMALE co-workers, (of course without the kids part). So those are my general traits. Nothing specific to "wife-dom".
Im feeling like his cheating is really just my Karma...because I didnt really seek to sniff out the truth, or pump the breaks until I felt like he was really free and clear, this is my pay back. And i am humbly taking my punishment.....