Amazing. I'm proud of you, for it's a situation I don't look forward to and have so far been able to refuse and avoid. Perv chose an OW many hours away, I imagine on purpose? but speaks of our daughter meeting her "someday" and it makes me ill.
I feel like you do most of the time, where now he can spread the drama and lies around there, for there isn't a calm minute when he shows up here.
It seems like feeling confused would be appropriate, for it's probably one of the most difficult and awkward experiences we may ever feel.
I've often been told and read that it isn't always about looks, for what I've seen of Perv's OW, she is rather large and reminiscent of the '80's and has a lot about her that he used to make fun of or complain about in people. It's sometimes about "convenience" and a willing person.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.