Thank you all very much. I appreciate the time that each one of you took to respond.
I meant to post an update to that text, but had a rather busy morning and could only find small bits of time to focus on much of anything. All NON A related!!! Which we all know is a blessing to be consumed by mundane life events!
FWH sent an email to me, elaborating on his text.
I won't post it as I feel it he wanted to have everyone read it, he would have posted it himself. I will allow him to share what he feels he wants to share with everyone.
I can tell you what he did do in this email. He didn't skim the surface or take a shallow approach.
1. He owned his *shit* and made NO excuses.
2. Acknowledged my pain without minimizing.
3. Apologized again without conditions, "buts" or justifications.
4. Focused/recognized the steps he has taken to improve himself.
5. Focused on what he would like to see in the future.
And....for the piece de resistance....... He totally screwed up the date!
BEST DAY EVER!
Nothing about that Affair was so mind blowing that he can recall the correct date. This coming from the man who remembers every single date to every single important event in his life. He never forgets the date of a marriage, death or birth....but his A with the woman who he "loved"....ummmm he muffed that date up.
This puts it all in perspective.
You see this A culminated into sex....and that mind blowing moment happened 4 years ago TOMORROW! Not today.
It's been on his mind for 3 days...with the time change and all. He wanted to make certain he addressed this painful date!
I'd say that pretty much sums it up! Affairs are the stuff unicorns, fairies and snipes are made of.