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User Topic: Had a chance to trust his word
♀ 38207
Member # 38207
Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And I blew it. Big time. A friend was telling me a story about a mishap with H's swimming suit during class in HS (14 years or so ago). She swears it was him and that the teacher swears it was him too. He swears he was never even near a swimming class during HS. I lnstead of believing him and letting it to, I threatened to call and have his transcripts sent to the house to prove he was telling the truth. We had a pretty heated discussion and now the whole house is super tense. I feel like such a jerk.

Posts: 1595 | Registered: Jan 2013
♂ 38044
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey...I can relate...taking a nothing event or statement like this and turning it into a gut wrenching step backwards.

This is where both parties need to exhibit resilience, patience and forgiveness....which can be really tough! Actually...haven't found much about this journey to be easy.

Hang in there kid....expect to stumble again. I am stumbling as I write this so take my support for what it is worth.

God be with us all.

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.

Posts: 5825 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
♀ 35846
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Default  Posted: 6:52 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome to Bat-shit crazy huh?

IMO this sitch has nothing to do with trusting your H. It was an event from high school…14 years ago! People's memories fade and different people recall events that others don't. I would let your H know that you are sorry for going a little loopy. Unfortunately his actions have brought you here, so he's going to have to understand….this is your new normal for right now.

We have enough to stress about during R, don't beat yourself up over it.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 4012 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
♀ 38207
Member # 38207
Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for listening. I did calm down and process a little and then apologized to my H for over reacting. Explained that it still hurts deeply that I have to question the truth of his words even in insignificant things. Also, I shared with him that part of this was most likely misplaced since we are coming up on some really tough days for me.

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