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User Topic: Any tiny victory is good right?
♀ 37190
Member # 37190
Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To say our R has been rocky is putting it mildly. Today, I just want to share some good for a change. WH has been so proactive in "seeing" me. Turns out, he has been seeing me - just gets in his own way. He has been assuming what I need and ignoring what I say. Lots of paralysis by analysis too. First step is him admitting and seeing it.

That stopped yesterday. Yes I know it's way too soon to count it, but for today, just for today, it counts. The last two days, he is a man I didn't know still existed. Again, for today, all is well and I shall enjoy it. I know more bumps are ahead in our road but today - all is well. I have had triggers and hurt these last two days but in the end - all is well today. Only took almost 9 months to say that. LOL!

Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016

Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an

Posts: 772 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Out of the ashes
♂ 38044
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hey, small victories are what its about...haven't seen anyone post about hitting a home run ever.

If it weren't for the small victories this path would drive a person to drinking!

Congratulations! Don't be bashful....celebrate when you can...try to squirrel away a bit of that positive momentum for when the negative pot holes reappear....they will help get you through. Hang in there kid.

God be with us all.

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.

Posts: 5825 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
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