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User Topic: being more social
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Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, June 17th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I do a lot better with quantified goals than vague goals sometimes, and especially goals I can break down into little pieces.

I've not been going out and getting socially acclimated a lot, so I set a goal to go out and do some social activity involving strangers at least once every 10 days (I can change this over time naturally). I use an online tracker that ensures I meet an average over time, which I've been using all year for some other goals with a lot of success.

I started with something really easy, a movie meetup. It went pretty well. I had a conversation with a couple interesting guys before the movie. I'll go to the one next week if my schedule allows.

The anticipation for these new things is often a little scary, but the event itself is pretty calm. Seems like there's always other new people anyway.

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Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There is nothing wrong with being anti-social for the first couple of years after this mess.

It's OK to cocoon if you feel like it. It's called healing.

It was nearly two years for me before I ventured out again with friends.

But I prefer movies alone. Don't have to share the popcorn.

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Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it's great that you're stretching yourself! I have been in hibernate mode as well, and have just started meeting up with friends again. I like the idea of the online tracker. Good luck with your goal!

You can call me NIK

This is it. The darkest day. The blackest hour. Chin up, shoulders back. Let's see what we're made of, you and I.
― The Doctor

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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I make myself talk to a stranger at races I'm running in. Or I start chatting with the grocery check-out clerk. They are no pressure situations and I can cut out fast if I feel like it.

I'm glad you are getting out a bit and you have a way to kind of hold yourself accountable to your goal.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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