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New Beginnings :
being more social

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 ProbableIceCream (original poster member #37468) posted at 4:45 AM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

So I do a lot better with quantified goals than vague goals sometimes, and especially goals I can break down into little pieces.

I've not been going out and getting socially acclimated a lot, so I set a goal to go out and do some social activity involving strangers at least once every 10 days (I can change this over time naturally). I use an online tracker that ensures I meet an average over time, which I've been using all year for some other goals with a lot of success.

I started with something really easy, a movie meetup. It went pretty well. I had a conversation with a couple interesting guys before the movie. I'll go to the one next week if my schedule allows.

The anticipation for these new things is often a little scary, but the event itself is pretty calm. Seems like there's always other new people anyway.

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:34 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

There is nothing wrong with being anti-social for the first couple of years after this mess.

It's OK to cocoon if you feel like it. It's called healing.

It was nearly two years for me before I ventured out again with friends.

But I prefer movies alone. Don't have to share the popcorn.

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20 years of OWs, WTF?
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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:59 PM on Tuesday, June 18th, 2013

I think it's great that you're stretching yourself! I have been in hibernate mode as well, and have just started meeting up with friends again. I like the idea of the online tracker. Good luck with your goal!

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tesla ( member #34697) posted at 11:39 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013

I make myself talk to a stranger at races I'm running in. Or I start chatting with the grocery check-out clerk. They are no pressure situations and I can cut out fast if I feel like it.

I'm glad you are getting out a bit and you have a way to kind of hold yourself accountable to your goal.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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