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ProbableIceCream posted 6/17/2013 22:45 PM

So I do a lot better with quantified goals than vague goals sometimes, and especially goals I can break down into little pieces.

I've not been going out and getting socially acclimated a lot, so I set a goal to go out and do some social activity involving strangers at least once every 10 days (I can change this over time naturally). I use an online tracker that ensures I meet an average over time, which I've been using all year for some other goals with a lot of success.

I started with something really easy, a movie meetup. It went pretty well. I had a conversation with a couple interesting guys before the movie. I'll go to the one next week if my schedule allows.

The anticipation for these new things is often a little scary, but the event itself is pretty calm. Seems like there's always other new people anyway.

FaithFool posted 6/18/2013 08:34 AM

There is nothing wrong with being anti-social for the first couple of years after this mess.

It's OK to cocoon if you feel like it. It's called healing.

It was nearly two years for me before I ventured out again with friends.

But I prefer movies alone. Don't have to share the popcorn.

nowiknow23 posted 6/18/2013 12:59 PM

I think it's great that you're stretching yourself! I have been in hibernate mode as well, and have just started meeting up with friends again. I like the idea of the online tracker. Good luck with your goal!

tesla posted 6/19/2013 17:39 PM

I make myself talk to a stranger at races I'm running in. Or I start chatting with the grocery check-out clerk. They are no pressure situations and I can cut out fast if I feel like it.

I'm glad you are getting out a bit and you have a way to kind of hold yourself accountable to your goal.

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