I'm so sorry that you are having to deal with this. I had a similar situation when my husband discovered my A. He was verbally abusive before, after D-Day the verbal abuse was multiplied by 100x, there was also physical, mental and emotional abuse.
I stayed because I felt that I deserved everything that I was getting from my husband because of what I had done. We went through 2 months of absolute hell while I TT the details. I was afraid of him.
We decided to try MC and part of that was Anger Mgmt for him. I take full responsibility for my A, but he has had to recognize how his abuse contributed to an environment where I wanted to escape. Am I a coward for not leaving years ago? Am I a coward for not calling the police when he became physical after D-day? I still don't know the answer to these questions.
If you are not in MC, I would get there ASAP. Even then, you don't know what the future will hold. My H had his own A while we were in MC and I thought working through our problems. Now we have more probs to deal with.
It sounds like you are still very close to your D-Day. I wish you luck and hope that your H will calm down soon so you can begin to heal.
I will keep you in my prayers.MHW-42
Married 15 yrs.
Mine DD - 6/2012
His DD - 5/2013