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User Topic: Calming turn-around time greatly decreased!
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just wanted to share with my SI friends that after my meltdown last Sunday night, I rebounded surprisingly quickly. I take this as most definite improvement in my life/mental state that I could get back into an okay mood so quickly after feeling so devastated.

I think this has something to do with the fact that I am now 2-1/2 years out from dday and although there are obviously still triggers and meltdowns, it appears that what is improving is how fast I get over it.

It started Sunday night when I found out that the effing OW showed up for Father's Day dinner with my ex, even though my son clearly had told his dad a few months back that he would rather just meet with him alone. I am sure it was that pushy dominant bitch's idea to invade my son's get together with his father, and of course spineless snake-boy (can't call him a man), went along with it because he is skank-pussy-whipped.

Well, I went into a meltdown. I haven't cried like that in months and months. It was one of those real "have to sit down on the floor cuz my knees are giving out" kind of crying - you all know the kind.

In the past, this would have left me in a major funk for days and days, even weeks, and in the beginning, months, but I am happy to report that by Monday night, I was feeling pretty good - back to normal almost, and today I am actually back to feeling happy and even laughing at my silly dog chasing chipmunks.

So for those of you who are just now going through the thick of it and are wondering if you are ever going to be happy again, the answer is YES!

Just wanted to share!

Spent half my life with an Ahole
D final!!! 11-11

"Obladi oblada life goes on...."

Posts: 347 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Wisconsin
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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I still have my days on the floor friend and you're exactly right, I bounce back the next day.

It used to be crippling now it is cleansing. I call that a win!

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6017 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It used to be crippling now it is cleansing.

Word! ^^^

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 20724 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 11:38 AM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This post makes me !

Posts: 2868 | Registered: Oct 2012
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Default  Posted: 11:40 PM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad to hear that the turn around time gets to be less. It still takes me about 3 or 4 days to get over an upset. I was down on the floor Thursday morning, down on the sand while taking my run Thursday morning, sobbing my eyes out. Today, just a few tears in the car (along with some incredible rage!!) along with 2 hours at the gym trying to blow off some of this anger.

At least I have moments when I feel calmer. I didn't use to have those before. Grateful for that!!

I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

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