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huRtZ413 posted 6/18/2013 09:19 AM
What are you doing to affair proof your marriage now ? What has changed on your part? And WS.
confused615 posted 6/18/2013 09:25 AM
The only actions you control are your own. You build and maintain strong boundaries on your end,and WH needs to do the same.
I don't think you can "affair proof" your marriage..because you can not control what the other person does.
refuz2bavictim posted 6/18/2013 09:30 AM
Confused beat me to it!
I am working to make sure *I* am a good partner. I can affair proof myself but not my M as I have no control over what he does.
I do however keep myself aware of what he is doing to work on himself, so that I can have some sense of what to expect from him in this M.
KeepCalm_CarryOn posted 6/18/2013 09:34 AM
What confused said!
I can only control my actions and reactions.
We both continue to work on ourselves and what we need to do to be good partners but I don't think even this "affair proofs" our marriage. It just means, hopefully, if issues do come up, we have better coping mechanisms!