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User Topic: my beloved eva
LonelyHusband
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Member # 34145
Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is Eva

When I was at my lowest, nearly two years ago, she was the only thing in my life that gave me any relief from the pain. When I was considering suicide, she sat beside me and shouted at me. So often I would wake up and see her face, snuggled in between OktoberMest and I. So often when we were fighting the tension would broken by the sound of a burmese miaow. In so many ways, that kitten helped keep us together.

Tonight I held her broken head in my hands. I picked her up from the ground where the car must have hit her, and OktoberMest and I buried her with our hands in a field under a tree. She would have been two years of age tomorrow.

It's just a cat. Yeah. Right. I miss her so much. I am so upset. So upset. My poor, poor kitten.

[This message edited by LonelyHusband at 4:36 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)]


Reconciling.
“A wizard is never late. Nor is he ever early. He arrives precisely when he means to".
Apparently not an appropriate reason for coming home drunk at 2AM.

Posts: 1299 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: UK
swizzlestick03
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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself LH.

((LH, OkM & Eva))


Me: BW-33
Him: WS-32
D-Day #1: 16 August 2010
D-Day #2: 16 January 2011
One smallish kiddo.

Posts: 572 | Registered: Nov 2010
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's just a cat.

no, she is a family member. Please honor her and yourself by grieving for her as such.

I'm so sorry LH and OM...hugs to you both!


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5789 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
scarredforever
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Member # 23875
Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful kitty.


"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

Mark Twain

Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years

6-5-06 Day of Reckoning

"The acquired inability to escape"


Posts: 1058 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, I am so sorry. She isn't just a cat, she's your touchstone. And she's a beauty. Perhaps she will be able to watch over you from afar. ((peace))


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6694 | Registered: Jan 2011
1devastedmom
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. I'm in tears just reading your post. She is not just a cat she was a member of your family. Our family dog died 9 years ago and to this day we still cry when we think of him.


Me BS: 42
WH: 44
DDay- April 17, 2013
Married 22 years
3 children: 18, 15 & 9
Reconcilling

Posts: 144 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: 1devastedmom
Afraid2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry. She was beautiful inside and out.

(((Lonely Husband and OctoberMest)))


BW -- 57
Divorced 2001
Re-married 2014--on what would have been our 35th anniversary

Posts: 434 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: NC
Chefj9
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Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

no, she is a family member. Please honor her and yourself by grieving for her as such.

I have tears for your loss
((((LovelyHusband)))


ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 472 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
Lucky
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so very very sorry. I love my fur babies with the same intensity as I love my children & grand children.


♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LH,
She's a beautiful girl. As one fur-parent to another, there is no such thing as "she's just a cat".
Our pets are family.

My heart goes out to you and your family.

((( LH and family )))


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6749 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
OktoberMest
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our cat was our first pet together. It was LH's first cat to add to our little family. I had a damn good try and blowing that family unit up; but Eva helped LH everyday at the start.

I know the bond we had was great also. When LH was in the US at the start of this year, Eva and I really bonded. She took care of me and I of her; and we could both Facetime LH together - and usually did.

I loved her so very much. I always will. She is irreplaceable. Today is a very sad day here, in a quiet village; made all the more quiet by the lack of Eva's tinking bell and her very noisy and demanding burmese MIAOW.

RIP Eva. Chase all the bunnies, birds and slow worms you want. We'll love you forever. 2 years was too short. Life is so damn unfair.

Brokenhearted and hoping this brings LH and I closer still.

[This message edited by OktoberMest at 4:50 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)]


Me: FWW (35) Growing up at last.
LonelyHusband: BH (41)
Dday 1: 29/Oct/11; Dday 2:15/Nov/11; last TT 15/Mar/12
In R...working my arse off.
When you're struggling with commitment to your marriage, just imagine what it's like to be a penguin.

Posts: 558 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: UK
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((LH, OktoberMest,Eva))))


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10102 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
crazyblindsided
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They are our furbabies that's why it hurts to lose them . They provide us with unconditional love.

I'm sorry for the loss of your kitty. Too young to be taken.

(((Lonely Husband and OctoberMest)))


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for your loss...I understand the huge void of lossing a beloved pet can leave.

Please know we're thinking of you and your wife and sending you loving thoughts.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 199228 | Registered: May 2002
Sal1995
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Member # 39099
Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's just a cat.

She was more than that. Many pets are just pets, but a few become something special. I adopted my cat Rosemary when I was 5. I put out a bowl of milk for her, and she decided that day that she had found her home. She snuggled with me frequently at night throughout my childhood. She was killed by a car when I was 21, almost 22 and away at college. That was 22 years ago and I still miss her sometimes.

Sorry for your loss, LH and OM. Many of us here can relate.


Me (BS)-46, WW-43
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling

Posts: 1498 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Texas
cdnmommy
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for your loss.


Me: BW
DDay: Oct 2010 + 6 weeks false R
2.5 (+?) year A with married coworker/my "friend"
1 great kid.
Reconciling and healing

Posts: 1791 | Registered: Nov 2010
WhatsRight
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I, too, am so sorry for your loss. Just a few weeks ago my dog died. For well over 7 years I had told her and her alone EVERYTHING.

I know how they can mean the world to you. I am sooooo thrilled that you two have each other for your grieving.

I'm so very sorry.


"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy


Posts: 1889 | Registered: Apr 2012
Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry, I feel your pain! Honestly, if it was not for my cat I question how well I would have survived. I remember laying in bed crying while my cat was purring like crazy and frantically butting her head against mine. When I finally got the nerve to leave my bastard ex she was all I took, and all I had.


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1371 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
anv5
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Hugs))
So sorry for your loss...I agree though, not "just a cat" Pets for some of us are much more than "just" no matter what animal it is.


BS(me)30
WH 29
1 Child
Married 11 yrs
D-Day: 4/9/13 he cheated in '08 & now + trickle truth & tons of lies 6/27 Found more, swears I really do have the whole truth now.
2/2/14 found out more...it seems the TT never ends.
Trying to R

Posts: 71 | Registered: May 2013
keeponkeepingon
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Member # 32935
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Lonely and Oktober))

I understand the pain of losing a dear family member. I am so sorry for your loss.

I also understand the healing power of a pet. My cats and dog have given me so much love, unconditional love. They helped me when I could barely help myself during the dark days after DDay and during our separation.


"I know you and you know me and I know you can see. So help me get my way back to you"

Posts: 1005 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: On the corner of Grey St at the end of the world
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