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nowiknow23 posted 6/18/2013 19:54 PM

My mom had a massive stroke 7 years ago. It left her non-verbal, unable to walk, and unable to swallow. She has been slowly fading ever since.

On Friday, her doctor let us know that she does not have long to live. Her health is precarious, and she is too weak to fight anything. It's time.

Today, my Dad met with a Hospice coordinator, and worked through all the impossible questions about how he wanted her last days to go. Yes to Hospice services. No to hospital interventions. Palliative care only. Check, check, initial here, sign there.

He is wrecked. Undone by the final burdens of a caregiver. Cast off from his moorings and watching the love of his life and his partner of 56 years drifting away.

My heart is so heavy, I can barely breathe.

Kajem posted 6/18/2013 19:56 PM


Sending light and love and hugs,


Mama_of_3_Kids posted 6/18/2013 20:06 PM


ThoughtIKnewYa posted 6/18/2013 20:08 PM


Lucky2HaveMe posted 6/18/2013 20:09 PM

So sorry for you all. May her final days be peaceful and pain free.

jo2love posted 6/18/2013 20:18 PM


inconnu posted 6/18/2013 20:18 PM

(((NIK))) and (((NIKDad)))

simplydevastated posted 6/18/2013 20:21 PM

Oh NIK, I really don't know what to say. I wish I had some words that could offer some comfort.

Sensing you and your dad big (((HUGS))) and prayers.

TattoodChinaDoll posted 6/18/2013 20:23 PM

((((NIK and family))))

woundedby2 posted 6/18/2013 20:25 PM

(((nik))) Sending prayers of comfort for you all.

LosferWords posted 6/18/2013 20:25 PM


kernel posted 6/18/2013 20:28 PM

((NIK and family)) Oh NIK, I just went through this when I lost my father last November. It's a horrible, painful time. Just know that this is the right decision and that your Mom's last days will be as peaceful and pain free as possible. Try to rest and be strong for your Dad, but don't forget to let yourself grieve as well. Hugs to you, sweetie. It's so hard, no way around it.

wifehad5 posted 6/18/2013 20:47 PM

(((NIK and family)))

Deeply Scared posted 6/18/2013 20:48 PM


I have some experience with Hospice...if you need to talk, I'm here for you.

Sending you so much love and support...I hope you can feel it from Texas

GabyBaby posted 6/18/2013 20:52 PM

((( Nowiknow23 )))

abbycadabby posted 6/18/2013 20:56 PM

My word, NIK. What a beautifully sad way to phrase your post. I am so sorry for your mom's failing health and your dad's task of making these final decisions.

Hugs to you all. You're in my thoughts.

MovingUpward posted 6/18/2013 20:57 PM


tryingagain74 posted 6/18/2013 21:06 PM


jrc1963 posted 6/18/2013 21:07 PM


click4it posted 6/18/2013 21:20 PM


Oh heart is heavy for you. Holding you up with my hugs.

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