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ButterflyGirl posted 6/18/2013 20:21 PM

So I called DCF on Saturday against STBX and MOW for a sick twisted "game" they were playing called "kung fu red ass" where he spanks the kids (including MOW's kid) until their butts are red with MOW sometimes holding their arms down. Apparently he does this after they expose their butts, which of course he does himself all the time, thinking it's "funny." DCF said they would be calling me within 24 to 48 hours, but I still haven't heard anything.. I finally got to pick up the kids tonight after his 3 days of visitation, and one of the first things they tell me is how they watched a really funny movie called "That's My Boy." It's an Adam Sandler and Andy Samberg movie, and it's rated R, and here are the reasons I found online for why it's rated R:

Violence:
- Infrequent non-graphic violence.
- Brief explicit violence.
- Depictions of fighting, beating and electrocution.
- Frequent upsetting or disturbing scenes.
Sexual Content:
- Nudity, depicting breasts and buttocks, in sexual contexts.
- Frequent breasts and buttocks nudity shown in non-sexual contexts.
- Implied sexual activity.
- Four sexually suggestive scenes.
- Embracing and kissing.
- Fondling.
- Sexual language and innuendo.
- Crude content.
- Infrequent crude portrayals of bodily functions (shown in some detail).
Language:
- Approximately 207 instances of coarse language.
- Approximately 42 instances of sexual language.
- Pervasive use of the sexual expletive and variations, sometimes in aggressive or sexual contexts.
- Frequent use of scatological slang.
- Infrequent use of profanity, cursing, ethno-cultural slurs, and vulgar expressions.
- Frequent use of crude and descriptive sexual language.
Drugs and Alcohol:
- Tobacco use (smoking).
- Alcohol abuse.
- Three scenes of drug use involving marijuana and cocaine.

My kids are only 9 and 5!! There is also a rule at his house that they are allowed to say any bad word they want but "fuck." And after dunking all their heads in a toilet in March (because it was "funny" and they "loved it" and "asked him to do it"), I'm getting so anxious waiting for DCF to call. Something has to be done about this guy. And if you ask me, MOW should get supervised visitation of her own kid too since she is always around when this crap happens and even participates and laughs about it. I'm so sick of my children seeing all this nudity and violence and drug use and cursing and being made to think it's "funny." It's so sick and twisted..

Griefstricken25 posted 6/18/2013 20:25 PM

That is horrendous!!!

I truly hope and pray DCF takes this seriously and the kids don't have to be anywhere near him, unsupervised.

Ashland13 posted 6/18/2013 20:41 PM

I'm really sorry, Butterfly Girl. You sound like such a good mom and struggling like I am when we can't be there for our kids while they are having their father visits.

(Lately I call him "Sperm Donor", like some of the old tv shows.

I caught something at a relative's of his that I'm struggling with and brought it to Perv's attention when they were going to stay there recently. He replied, "I saw that too!" Well? Does that mean he said anything?

It was his brother peeing with the door open while I was there and DD was there, who is 10!!! The guy tried o say, "Oh, you and she were sleeping". No, I was at the coffee pot and we don't know if DD was sleeping, the door was shut but the bathroom right in the next room!

The problem is the other place that the people let him take DD is a place where there is computer porn, a kid addicted to drugs, teen pregnancy, drinking and smoking, an unsafe yard...I can't stand that these are the choices he's made for their visits and these are the people who will help.

Anyway, I'm truly sorry for your children's hard times and I hope social services will intervene and help you...and I hope it will be soon and they won't have to go there anymore.

debbysbaby posted 6/18/2013 21:13 PM

He is a sick, sadistic, abusive fucked up mess. He doesn't deserve the honor and privilege of parenting.

You called Saturday, right? Well, if I were you I would have called DFACS back today since today was Tuesday and Monday was 48 hours. I'd call 1st thing in the morning.

I hope something can be done! What a stupid man. He is a waste of oxygen.

[This message edited by debbysbaby at 9:14 PM, June 18th (Tuesday)]

TattoodChinaDoll posted 6/18/2013 23:16 PM

(((BG and kids))) That is just absolutely horrendous! I hope in the divorce that he is forced to pay all the psychiatric bills for the kids.

abigailadams posted 6/18/2013 23:46 PM

You are doing the right thing in trying to protect them from this abuse disguised as humor. I hope it goes well with DCF.

Faithful w/Love posted 6/19/2013 10:00 AM

What kind of prev does that? You know it has to hurt your kids to spank them till their little butts are red? And they most likely are thinking " I can't say it is not funny or fun or dad will get on us". How fucking sick is that? They will grow up thinking it is okay or they will be haunted by the twisted games that their dad does. And Bitch MOW is part of it so she should go down with him. This is not funny shit. That is sick and twisted.
Please call DCF back today to see what is going on. Someone could get really hurt by this. What is the neck game? Choke yourself till you pass out?

I am so sorry butterfly, My wh is a NPD ass also but I do know he would not do that type of shit to the kids. Wow! I am in Awe.

ButterflyGirl posted 6/19/2013 12:44 PM

Well, I called the abuse hotline again and reported them watching the movie, and I asked them about the other report I made, and they gave me the number to the local office. I called that number, but she acted like they wouldn't always be contacting me about it. I guess I just sit around and wait some more

Faithful w/Love posted 6/19/2013 12:51 PM

I work with a mental health clinic for children and DHS is horrible. They go after parents that are not bad and the bad ones they don't go after. Also,here where I live they cut the state way down a few years ago, so getting things done is FOREVER!
I am so sorry about this. Call the police the next time it happens that may kick DHS in the ass.