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User Topic: Possible Victory???
♀ 38928
Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just got text from POS saying what he wants from our assets (it was stuff I was prepared to give in negotiations anyway) and he is conceding me the rest, including the marital home outright. After last night's verbal sparring he is being very agreeable, but says he just wants to move forward in a positive manner. Part of his sudden conversion of agreeableness might be that he just found out one of his old friends just commit suicide. He says I know him, but won't tell me who it is and says he doesn't want to talk about it anymore. I am always sorry when someone feels the need to take their own life, but I may actually be seeing a light at the end of my own dark tunnel as a partial result. He has asked me to prepare the dissolution paperwork and send to him for his signature, which I will do quickly to strike while the iron is hot!

BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
D 2013

~Hakuna matata!~

Posts: 1823 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
♀ 23890
Member # 23890
Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This sounds good... if it holds. Fingers crossed. You have or will be passing the paperwork by an atty...right? I know after 30 years, we were looking at QDRO's and quit claim deeds, insurance issues... Be sure to CYA!

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4415 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
♀ 24961
Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 9:12 PM, June 18th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Definitely by the L first...and don't give him squat without his signature on those papers...and then something to sign saying he as picked up everything so he can't come back later!

Go for it girl!

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

Posts: 5863 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
♀ 37215
Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Take advantage of the situation now! and don't poke the bear. Good luck!

I SURVIVED infidelity. Me 44, DD 20, DS 16
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2735 | Registered: Oct 2012
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck!

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fly like the wind, Phoenix! These agreeable moments tend to fade quickly.

You can call me NIK

"The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it." - Brene Brown

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