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User Topic: I threw DS23 out yesterday
painpaingoaway
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Member # 27196
Sad  Posted: 8:58 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm a basket case.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 34 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7161 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ppga)))

Posts: 36807 | Registered: Mar 2011
Tred
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Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ppga)))
I know how hard that must have been.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 4135 | Registered: Dec 2011
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((ppga)))))))


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26517 | Registered: Aug 2011
confused615
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((PPGA))))

I know you said you're a basket case..but I think what you did showed tremendous strength,courage,and love.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 8086 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((PPGA)))

I understand. You know it's the right thing, right? You will get thru somehow. I'm so sorry.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 18 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2937 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So sorry to hear this.

((((ppga))))

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21119 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ppga)))

I am sorry. We had to do the same thing to our son back in February. He is 24.

My head knows it's right, my heart struggles.

There are times I want to smack him in the head and other times I want to hold him close and keep him safe.

We have no control over them and all we can do is hope they find their ways.

I know it's hard and it hurts.

I am hoping for you, and all of us it truly gets better one day.


((((hugs))))


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3872 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((ppga))))

I agree with Confused615...it was a very brave thing you did. Slow and steady...it will be ok.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 199203 | Registered: May 2002
jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((PPGA)))


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24750 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ppga)))

You are so strong. Hang in there.

And when you aren't strong? Come here and let us remind you.

(((big big hugs)))


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5947 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all for your support. It means so much to me.

Now my fear is that he will make another suicide attempt.

Yesterday was beyond horrible.

Plus H was a basket case, and I had to keep him calmed down in addition to dealing with DS and my own anguish.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 34 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7161 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't really know the specifics but I wanted to share this with you.

When I was 24 I called my mom from jail for bail money for the umpteenth time. She told me to "Rot There!!!" And hung up the phone.

That was the most loving thing she ever did for me. The growth didn't start right away but it was the spark that eventually ignited the fire to change.

You are in my prayers.


BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2692 | Registered: Aug 2012
his#1
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ppga)))

I am so sorry. I know how you feel and I wish with all of my heart I could help.


**The soul would have no rainbow
Had the eyes no tears.~J.Cheney
**Oh, my friend, it's not what they take away from you that counts. It's what you do with what you have left. ~Hubert Humphrey

Posts: 1659 | Registered: Feb 2004 | From: Michigan
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((ppga))))

I'm so sorry, but you know you are doing the right thing. I wish it didn't have to all be so hard though.

((((ppga))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2716 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Ppga)))

Sometimes the right thing to do is the toughest thing to do.

Sending lots of hugs.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38977 | Registered: Sep 2007
click4it
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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((ppga))))


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ppga)))

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((ppga)))


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4247 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, June 19th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((ppga)))))


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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