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Skan (original poster member #35812) posted at 7:24 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
I have left the R forum and have moved to General. Thank you everyone with whom I've corresponded here. I appreciate the encouragement and love that you have given me.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 7:25 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
libertyrocks ( member #38924) posted at 7:39 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
I'll see you there, Skan. I go to both, still. I'm not sure if R is what I'm doing. I KNOW HE IS. But, I say fuck him in my mind every day, all day...
Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.
catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 7:39 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciled
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 7:39 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
We're here for you wherever you post.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Getting to Happy ( member #35200) posted at 7:55 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
(((((Skan)))))
WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown
Blobette ( member #36519) posted at 9:03 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
So sorry. I don't post a lot, but I'm very grateful for your posts and feel I know you. Lots of love and strength to you.
BS (me): 51
WS: 52
Married: 27 yrs
Kids: 2
OW: Co-worker, 7 yr LTA
DD 8/1/2012, Working on R
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 9:55 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
(((Skan)))
I bounce between here and R too because my moods change and my WH's behavior can change rapidly. I can't stick with full R yet.
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
2married2quit ( member #36555) posted at 10:42 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013
Welcome to the club. I'm in both. R is stalled by so many issues. HUH!
BS - Me 47 WS - Her 45 ( she's a childhood sexual abuse survivor)
DDAY -#1- June 2012/ #2 -June 2015 / #3-August 2015
Married 25yrs. 2kids
She had 2 affairs with two different men.
Status: divorced.
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 10:33 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
(((skan)))
This is a non linear path. sigh.
Expect to stumble.
Affairs are not unique in America...and, at times, appear to be the norm. sigh.
However, each of us are unique...and only we know what we are capable of.
I will tell you that your posts have helped me along the way. So, just in case you think what you are going through is a waste of time and energy...please think again. At any given moment one of your posts saved another marriage for another day...this is no small thing.
I pray that you will find the path that is right for you. I too get tired and close to breaking.
God be with you. God be with us all.
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
MrsDoubtfire ( member #24786) posted at 3:50 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
I'll see you over there as I post a lot in General simply because I sometimes worry about name calling the OW and General is a safer forum for me depending on how I'm feeling 
BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now become†
PinkJeepLady ( member #37575) posted at 2:40 AM on Friday, June 21st, 2013
You have and are an inspiration to me too, wherever you are! Just keep sharing your thoughts!
Sending you support and strength this evening, take care!
Me: BW Him: FWH
DDay June 1st 2012
cheated with prostitutes overseas
Reconciled - thought so, but now divorcing
Gr8Lady ( member #36307) posted at 4:49 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013
I post here and there and my feeling is we have something to contribute. Who knows when one phrase or comment can assist another. After all we are trying to "survive"
Ultimately, to heal and survive.
BS: Me (70yo)FWH: HIM (72 yo)) serial infidelities over past 35 years
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2013
friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over a
year a year. Now his health is declining,
among the lack of communication.
housenotahome ( member #32423) posted at 8:53 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013
Please be ok.
Me BS
Him WS
Married 13 years together 17
DDay Mar.2011
Mistake-Going through a stop sign because you didn't see it.
Poor choice-You saw the stop sign and went through it anyway.
Skan (original poster member #35812) posted at 1:34 AM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
Hey everyone. Still hanging in there. I'm back in the house, at least, and we're starting to talk. I have an appointment to go with him to his IC next week so his IC can answer my questions. No trust, of course. But if there is one thing that I have learned with SI, it's that I can do things in my own good time and no one elses. We shall see how it goes.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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