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 loveisareddress (original poster member #36474) posted at 10:01 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013

About 3 years ago, my husband had cancer.

His XW showed up on our doorstep out of nowhere to visit him(like she belonged here or some shit)and offered to care for him if it all got to be too much for me.

All I was concerned about was getting him well, even though her showing up at our house and saying something like that felt like a slap in the face.

I've put everything on hold for years in the pursuit of his health.

He now likes to tell me I abandoned him in his hour of need-while he was in chemo and radiation.

What a thankless prick!

I was there godamnit!

When she showed up, I should have taken my kids, left, filed for divorce and let her take care of him. I don't know how she would have had the time though.

She had spouse and kids of her own and a job too.

He has lied to me for years.

I stayed and did what I thought was the right thing in taking care of him.

Sometimes I wish I hadn't, but then what would the kids have thought?

I want to lay down and cry, but I have no tears left.

I just fucking hate him right now.

Scorched earth-Like Peter the Great, he burns up his own territory in order to gain the upper hand while his own people suffer.

I don't need you to be happy. I just need you to leave me alone when I am.

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 10:40 PM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2013

(((loveisareddress)))

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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I think I can ( member #17756) posted at 2:44 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

You're not dead, sweetie. You still have the rest of your life ahead of you.

You can still do now what you should have done then.

I'm not the winner, I'm the prize.

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:49 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

(((((loveisareddress)))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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