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want_to_forgive posted 6/19/2013 16:16 PM

I have definitely been lucky with how easy it was to separate my fiances from Ex's in the divorce. We each owned our own houses, his mom lived in his and he just moved in with her. The problem has been that Ex won't get his things out of my house or my shop. The place if filled to the brim with his things. Also, he lives literally four houses down from me.

My solution? Ask him to buy my house. At first he said "I don't want your house." But he came around. I knew he would.

So this is where I am at: I am 90% sure I am going to qualify for a new $200,000 house loan. We came to an agreement on the sale price for my place. He is at the bank right now trying to qualify. If this works out, I will get to take my things and walk away. I will have $60,000 in equity without having to go through the nightmare of getting the house ready to sell. I will use $45,000 for a down on a new place, buy new furniture, and start 100% fresh. He even agreed to give me a 3 month grace period to find a new place and close on it.

I am so excited! Please keep your fingers crossed, I should know by tomorrow if it is going to go through.

meaniemouse posted 6/19/2013 16:18 PM

This sounds WONDERFUL! And exciting-- and I so have my fingers crossed that it works out for you!

nowiknow23 posted 6/19/2013 16:25 PM

Sounds potentially fabulous! Mojo to you!!!

SBB posted 6/19/2013 16:40 PM

If this works out, I will get to take my things and walk away.

Fingers crossed!

Oh, how I dream of this. I would have run as fast as I could and left it all if I didn't have children with him. And I would never have looked back.

want_to_forgive posted 6/19/2013 17:36 PM

Just got the call from the Mortgage company... I'm approved! Now I just have to wait to see if he can get his loan.

gma56 posted 6/19/2013 17:39 PM


Sounds very promising !
Gma

Kajem posted 6/19/2013 19:51 PM

Sending Mortgage Mojo for your X.

That just sounds weird.

Take2 posted 6/19/2013 20:11 PM

Seconding Mortgage MOJO for the X!! (How often will you hear that said here??? )

fadedrainbow posted 6/20/2013 04:15 AM

Keeping my fingers crossed for it to go through smoothly. Yeah!!!! Good riddance to bad rubbish!!!!!

want_to_forgive posted 6/24/2013 19:08 PM

Well, he didn't qualify for the loan. Sigh. I guess that would have been too easy.

Now he is saying that he will get a smaller loan and build a shop on the property where he lives with his mom. It will take him most of the summer to build, so I guess I am stuck with his things in my house/yard/shop for several more months. AND, he will still be living four houses away from me. Goodie.

At least I know I qualify for my own home loan if I decide to list my house and sell it to an outside party. I might get more for it that way, but it will be a pain getting it ready to sell. I'm thinking it would be worth it to be away from him and get a fresh start in a home that isn't tainted with the stain of my miserable marriage.

Other than that bump in the road, life is good! I LOVE being single and divorced from that jackass. Wish I had done it years ago.

gma56 posted 6/25/2013 02:15 AM

I'm thinking it would be worth it to be away from him and get a fresh start in a home that isn't tainted with the stain of my miserable marriage
I will tell you for me it has been priceless. I have NO legal/ personal connection to FT and it is wonderful !

You go girl.

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