BS - Me
I've been doing the exact same thing. I stayed away from places because I had memories with the POS/family being there. I decided to not let that shape my future thinking, so DD16 and I have been purposefully going to some of those same places together specifically to create new, happy memories.
I even bought a new garbage can at home because POS insisted on the previous one, and I wanted to get rid of that memory and create a new one...sad, but true...
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet