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FlySomeday (original poster member #35150) posted at 5:27 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
Ok I've been trying to mediate for a good oh lets say 1.5 years now. He walked away 2 times 1 week before then session (1 time deal where you settle everything all in one shot) and then filed for custody and brought it into the courts. That was fun. His ass was diced and sliced in court. It could have been a movie it was so bad. So, now, we are going back to the table. Hoping that his narcissistic ass comes around because this shit is exhausting ya know. Not to mention those children he's been fighting so hard for ...are tired of doing without. So, SI family wish me luck and all the good mojo that is out in the universe. Seriously don't want to do court. Can't imagine why he would. VA is a fault state. I got plenty on him. I'm signing off.
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 5:33 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
Sending Mojo, and hopes that tomorrow is the someday that you get to start flying!! 
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
Coraline ( member #36434) posted at 9:30 AM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
Good luck and mojo! I don't understand at all why they are allowed to drag things out the way they do. And everyone acts like the solution is mediation or collaborative divorce, and if only everyone going through D would TRY HARDER, they could work it out, completely ignoring the fact that some people are trying their asses off, and the only thing happening is that the family courts allow themselves to be used by bad people to punish good people who don't deserve it.
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
Ashland13 ( member #38378) posted at 8:26 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013
Good luck!
Some of that's been happening here, where some of Narcissistic Perv's shortcuts and general not-doings are coming to pass and ...there's no one to bail him out in those meetings!
He tried to go after me for custody and made noise about DD going to live "there" and it's just not going to happen, no matter how tired and stressed and poor we get!
How could a man who snuck out in the middle of the night and then wrote his 9 year old a "dear John" letter without the mother knowing, think he would be given "physical custody"?
There are people telling me that this is done sometimes as a way to try to avoid paying more support money.
I wish you luck, Fly.
I had two mediation meetings so far and am told there will be four or five, for what it's worth. One went horribly and the second one I stood my ground a little more, as did my L...and the karma bus came because Perv got in trouble for some stuff he wanted credit for!
Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 4:51 AM on Friday, June 21st, 2013
I hope you make some progress ! Nail his pitiful ass if you have to !
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
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