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User Topic: Poly tonight - wish us luck :-(
sodamnlost
♀ 37190
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Having WH take a poly tonight at 6:30. Not suspecting anything new, just looking for some reassurance I guess. I know it's not a silver bullet but with years of mind games from him, I am not so sure I trust my brain some days :-(


Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016


Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an


Posts: 772 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Out of the ashes
confused615
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck.

WH said he would take one..but has made no effort to do so.

I hope you get the reassurance you're looking for.


((((sodamnlost))))


BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.



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JustWow
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck, both of you.

We did this. it did help, both of us.


BW - Reconciling

edited for typos (I always have to!)


Posts: 3840 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Midwest
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

*fingers crossed* for no parking lot confessons and a good result!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 8012 | Registered: Jan 2011
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 2:19 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((HUGS)) and good luck tonight. I know it's not going to be easy.


Proud mom to a lovely young lady and a sweet little boy.

Posts: 8381 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Southeast US
sodamnlost
♀ 37190
Member # 37190
Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He feels like crap because he had made choices that have us here, his wife asking for a poly. He is scared it won't help me.

I feel guilty almost. I *KNOW* I shouldn't but I do. I don't think he is still lying (most days) but on those days I do - yeah - the crazy takes over and hopefully this will help. I am *TERRIFIED* that he is still lying to me :-( I sooooo hope the poly gives me some security. I am scared of what I will have to do if he *IS* still lying. My belly is in knots. My head hurts. I want to vomit. My chest has an elephant on it. I want it over and done already.


Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016


Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an


Posts: 772 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Out of the ashes
OptimisticWife
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((sodamnlost)))

I hope you feel much better once you have the results. Don't feel guilty. Good on you for looking out for yourself. I think it's good that your WH is doing this in hopes of helping your healing. It's a great step for you both. I wish you both the best. Good luck.


Posts: 191 | Registered: Aug 2012
1Faith
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Wink  Posted: 5:35 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck!! It will hopefully be another reassurance for you so you can move forward. Sending hugs.


" I am just really f'ing tired " ---ME

Posts: 3094 | Registered: Apr 2013
sodamnlost
♀ 37190
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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HE PASSED!!!!!!!!!!!!!

:-) YAY!!


Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016


Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an


Posts: 772 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Out of the ashes
JustWow
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Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yay! yay! yay!

Good job, BOTH of you, boundaries and promises are both important to keep - and ya both did your part!


BW - Reconciling

edited for typos (I always have to!)


Posts: 3840 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Midwest
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yaaaaay!!! I'm so glad. Hopefully this is a huge load off for both of you!!


(((sdl)))


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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catlover50
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you both!!!!!


Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 2297 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
LivinginLimbo
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Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope this helps you to move on.


BS - 65
WH - 63
Married 37 years


D-Day 2/12/12
D-Day 6/1/16 Caught him back online early enough that no physical contact took place but still devastating. This sucks.


Posts: 1244 | Registered: Mar 2012
Missymomma
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! Hope it gives you some peace.


DDay - 6/15/11
R started - 7/1/11
False Discl- 9/27/12
Real Discl - 2/12/13
Poly - 3/1/13 Pass!
Me - BS (46)
WH - 52 (SA, NA, WA)
Kids: 2 littles and 1 grown
The road to recovery is long and hard. Some days I am up for it and others not!

Posts: 1084 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Texas
PinkJeepLady
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome, I bet this is a huge relief for both of you. What a positive step for R!
Thanks for sharing your news! Have a wonderful evening!


Me: BW Him: FWH in our 50's
DDay June 1st 2012
cheated with prostitutes overseas
R-ing

Posts: 700 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! I love hearing positive things.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 33 years, Together 40 years - Reconciled

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Skan
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so happy for you!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 9789 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
OptimisticWife
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Default  Posted: 7:14 AM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fantastic!!! All the best to you both

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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, June 21st (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome!!!!


BS 42
fWS 38 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DsD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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