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I finally suck it up and got tested

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 wannarun (original poster member #36871) posted at 8:32 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

Brought all the anger, humiliation, and self consciousness racing back in!! Plus the doc telling me to lose weight and I'd feel better didn't help!! Ya think!' But will it make me feel better than chocolate?!? Nooooooo!! Then he asked if I wanted to hurt myself!! Ummm..,..no but I want to hurt you and a few other people right now!! He just gave me a little nervous smile and giggle and a rx for Xanax and wellbutrin!! Wellbutrin to make me horny and Xanax to make me not be able to get there!! One foot in front of the other maybe I'll get somewhere some day!!

Me/BS - 41 him/WS - 42 2-boys 11&4
DD- Aug 2011 plus several in the months that followed ~ He said "I just needed someone to talk to" I asked if "Oprah was hiding in her panties" he wasn't amused!

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Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 8:35 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

But will it make me feel better than chocolate?!?

Right?!

Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

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Jennifer99 ( member #39551) posted at 8:37 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

wellbutrin makes you horny?

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 wannarun (original poster member #36871) posted at 8:40 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

That's what I hear!! It has that effect on many people that take it!! Guess we'll see!!

Me/BS - 41 him/WS - 42 2-boys 11&4
DD- Aug 2011 plus several in the months that followed ~ He said "I just needed someone to talk to" I asked if "Oprah was hiding in her panties" he wasn't amused!

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unfound ( member #12802) posted at 8:41 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

Ummm..,..no but I want to hurt you and a few other people right now!!

surprised he didn't give you a hefty bag full of samples after that comment .

good on you for going and getting tested! it sucks, I know.

ka-mai
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Kids on the playground can be so cruel. “Get off the swings you’re like 50, and stop talking about Soundgarden, we don't even know what that is."

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JustWow ( member #19636) posted at 8:42 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

bummer- I took wellbutrin and all I got from it was hives - :)

BW - Reconciling

edited for typos (I always have to!)

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 wannarun (original poster member #36871) posted at 8:43 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

Let me clarify the Wellbitrin wasn't to make me horny!! Lol!! It's for depression but some say it has that side effect!!

Me/BS - 41 him/WS - 42 2-boys 11&4
DD- Aug 2011 plus several in the months that followed ~ He said "I just needed someone to talk to" I asked if "Oprah was hiding in her panties" he wasn't amused!

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 wannarun (original poster member #36871) posted at 8:49 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

Well if it makes me horny and give me the hives!! I make just have to sip a Benadryl cocktail all day!! I haven't been eager for ....... For a while!!

Me/BS - 41 him/WS - 42 2-boys 11&4
DD- Aug 2011 plus several in the months that followed ~ He said "I just needed someone to talk to" I asked if "Oprah was hiding in her panties" he wasn't amused!

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twodoves ( member #39181) posted at 8:49 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

Fx everything comes back clear!

Me - BS
Him - WS (N3v3rG1v1ngUp)
Together 7 years, married for 2
He was cheating for 5 years
5 OW
D-days: 4/23/13, 4/27/13, 5/10/13
1 toddler, baby girl on the way in December

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 wannarun (original poster member #36871) posted at 8:54 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

Me too!! That a whole other can of worms I don't want to open!!!

Me/BS - 41 him/WS - 42 2-boys 11&4
DD- Aug 2011 plus several in the months that followed ~ He said "I just needed someone to talk to" I asked if "Oprah was hiding in her panties" he wasn't amused!

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Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 9:52 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

I'm on Wellbutrin & it def doesn't have that side effect for me. It is awesome w/cutting back cig cravings, tho.

Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long

Now:-----> Everything is as it should be

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 wannarun (original poster member #36871) posted at 10:02 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

I don't smoke!! Will it cut back my chocolate habit?!?

Me/BS - 41 him/WS - 42 2-boys 11&4
DD- Aug 2011 plus several in the months that followed ~ He said "I just needed someone to talk to" I asked if "Oprah was hiding in her panties" he wasn't amused!

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musiclovingmom ( member #38207) posted at 11:12 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

My XH took Wellbutrin. It made him gain weight and sweat excessively. Def did NOT make him horny.

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BeautifulEmpty ( member #38763) posted at 11:41 PM on Thursday, June 20th, 2013

I took Wellbutrin for years. It curbed my smoking urges though that wasn't why I was taking it and it cut my over the top sex drive to zero. >.<

Me: 44 BS
Him: 40 FWS
Ow: 47 head case, no obs
5 DD's: 23, 20, 19, 17, 12
Last D-day: August 2012 with lots of very blurry lines.

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 wannarun (original poster member #36871) posted at 7:29 AM on Friday, June 21st, 2013

Y'all are making me not wanna take it now!!

Me/BS - 41 him/WS - 42 2-boys 11&4
DD- Aug 2011 plus several in the months that followed ~ He said "I just needed someone to talk to" I asked if "Oprah was hiding in her panties" he wasn't amused!

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Abby ( member #5526) posted at 7:32 AM on Friday, June 21st, 2013

I took Welbutrin for months and it ended up only giving me severe tremors. Fun times.

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 wannarun (original poster member #36871) posted at 7:58 AM on Friday, June 21st, 2013

Are y'all taking generic or name brand I've read the generic causes way more excessive side effects than generic

Me/BS - 41 him/WS - 42 2-boys 11&4
DD- Aug 2011 plus several in the months that followed ~ He said "I just needed someone to talk to" I asked if "Oprah was hiding in her panties" he wasn't amused!

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RockyMtn ( member #37043) posted at 1:03 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013

I dunno about wellbutrin, but I'm on Citalopram and the doc says she likes to try that out first because it fucks with your sex drive the least even if it affects it some. No pun intended.

Me, BS, 30s
Him, WS, 30s, Steppenwolf
Kids: Yep
D-Day 1: September 2011, 6 week EA
D-Day 2: January 2013, discovered EA was a PA; there was another PA in 2010. All TT.
Goal = serenity.

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windowsnotwalls ( member #36983) posted at 1:57 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013

We just had our tests too. Still waiting on the results. Did your WS get tested also? And as far as the testing go, did they also do blood work? HIV and syphilis can only be tested via blood draws.

It is humiliating and awful. I, too, felt like it was Dday all over again. That's natural. ((((wannarun)))))

My doc did a full blood panel testing for all kinds of stuff (CBC, vitamin levels, thyroid, iron, etc) before putting me on anything. Then he put me on prozac and vitamin d3. I've been taking those and a one-a-day energy vitamin and ginkgo biloba and I am finally feeling great. Good luck.

ETA: Oh, and as far as a calming agent (like when I can't sleep at night or a couple months ago when I'd be in total panic mode), simply taking either one dramamine or one benadryl did the trick. Just a tip for when the doc says no more xanax. I didn't want to go the xanax route because MrWNW did before and I saw how it worked great at first but he needed more and more of it to get the same effect over time. He eventually just took himself off the xanax. Dramamine or benadryl were safer, non-addictive alternatives according to my doc.

[This message edited by windowsnotwalls at 8:16 AM, June 21st (Friday)]

Me (39): BS
Him (39): WS
Praying my way through each day.
Content (Philippians 4: 11b-13)

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debbysbaby ( member #32962) posted at 2:12 PM on Friday, June 21st, 2013

I took wellbutrin for a while (it was supposedly to prevent migraines) and it killed my sex drive, in the first few weeks it gave me vivid dreams all night that were kind of like hallucinations and reduced my appetite so I lost weight. It didn't help with my depression either. There are way better options for depression IMO.

-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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