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User Topic: I mean, I like cougars...
Sad in AZ
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Shutup  Posted: 7:30 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(mountain lions); I don't want to be a cougar.

On Sunday, I let a guy (who I thought I recognized) into the apartment complex. He turned out to the be friend of a neighbor (whom I don't know either) and was here to play waterpolo. We chatted briefly, then I went into my apartment to put away my groceries. Then I went out again for dinner. The guy was still on the landing-friend wasn't home. We chatted some more. He works near my office; he said 'we should do lunch'. I thought, meh, why not. He was obviously much younger than me. Turns out he's in his mid 30's. I had given him my cell number; I turned to leave and he put out his hand, so I went to shake it and he hugged me--not my thing!

I'm not looking for a relationship. He continued to text me all night and the next 2 days--I didn't answer.

Today I had to pick up a receipt that I had been trying to get faxed or emailed to me--for some reason the guy could not figure it out. When I walked into the office and introduced myself, the first thing he said (with a shocked look on his face!) was "You're beautiful!" He looked about 21.

What is it with kids these days?? I never get reactions like this from guys near my age--not that I want them but it's really weird coming from someone who could be my child.

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

Posts: 25302 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona
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Member # 20849
Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know...I look at this stuff a little differently than before. Before I started dating my new guy, I was totally against dating younger guys and thought all they wanted was an experienced woman for sex. I need to stop making generalizations....

I'm sure that is what SOME younger guys are wanting, but you know what? There are some guys that are genuinely attracted to women a bit older for other reasons....and in some cases, it is for the woman herself and not for any generalization- type reasons.

Sad, you are an attractive woman and you seem like you would carry yourself with confidence. That is attractive to many guys, no matter what age....and at this point, I don't see anything wrong with hanging out with guys that are a bit younger and seeing if anything clicks....

Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 16236 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
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Member # 25041
Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This has been happening to me lately too. I'm in my 50's and young guys have been chatting me seems crazy to me.

Posts: 1211 | Registered: Aug 2009
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Member # 26023
Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, I'm having to swat away the 20-something girls like flies. Little pesky things... go home and cry to your daddies.

Seriously, Sad, congrats!! Eat it up!!!

BH, now divorced

Posts: 3529 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: New England
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Same here-I'm 48 and I've had to be rude to persistent 25 and 28 year olds

I did go out with a 36 and 39 year old-they are at a different point in their life-they want to (re)marry and have (more)children

remarried 11-15-15

Her prize is a man who ran out on his wife and children. His is a woman who is too stupid to understand that she is not special, she is simply there.

Posts: 1784 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: Clover, SC
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Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, June 20th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Little pesky things... go home and cry to your daddies.

Full moon in cougar this weekend I think.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 20700 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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