You do not deserve to be treated this way by your husband.
I know you are in a lot of pain worrying about your daughter.
So you know what you need to do? Forget about your husband. Get rid of him. He is simply sapping all the energy and happiness right out of you like a giant black hole.
You need to have all your strength and happiness to deal with your daughter, How dare he take that from her?!?!?
Get mad. Get really mad. Get rid of him.
So sorry you are here. This is the best place I have found in the web. Start reading the links in the healing library. Be strong! we are all here for a reason. My wife did the same to me. ripped my heart apart. It has been first since 06 so here I am and I am ok I am going to move on and so are you broken heart you will heal where as your husband will 4ever be broken. Yes its time to get mad and 180. 180for YOU! and YOUR DAUGHTER!!
I'M ON THE FENCE
You dont' deserve this, you did nothing to make him this way. He is what he is and no amount of love will change that.
Time to start planning your new life. It will be better than living this one, I am sure.
Picture you new life, it will be better for your daughter also.
Don't wait for him to become the man you deserve.
HE IS ABUSING YOU.
Please read up on the 180. You don't deserve this.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
I admire your strength to be able to reach out here at just 3 weeks out!! At 3 weeks out I was still in shock and unable to even eat or sleep, let alone put words together, so I think you are a VERY strong person, and you WILL get through this.
I think you should kick him out why would you leave? He is the cheater! You have to take care of the kids tell the bastard to get out. You can let him back in later, if you really want. Right now, you need space.