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mom of 2 posted 6/20/2013 21:39 PM

infidelity is absolutely, hands down, the worst thing that I have ever experienced.

I am divorced, rarely see or speak to my now XWH, but boy oh boy I have been through it since Dday.

This is not a post to get hugs or support, it's a post to let others know that feel the same, you are NOT alone.

Infidelity, for some, is absolutely devastating and other life events pale in comparison.

If only the WW's had a clue beforehand...

I would take a thousand other "events" vs ONE dday.

Hugs to ALL enduring this hell! At least we have SI!

hailstormer posted 6/20/2013 21:56 PM

Ditto...I am 3 years out my WXH moving out to be with her (nice name for pond scum) and we cannot even communicate we scream at each other we have only seen each other 3 times in person in those 3 years.
He picks up out kids outside and when I take the kids to "their" home I still cry uncontrollably seeing him slip outside to hug the kids.
He tells me to Get Over It cause it has been 3 years since I moved out. I tell him how can I when we were together 21 years with no problems and you told me every single day how much you loved me how does someone get over that!!!
Now because he hasn't paid alimony in over a year (partly because of a job loss) but now he is employed and bought a new car and I am in "our" dream home trying to save it from I had to take steps this week to file a contempt of court for monies owed and it could mean jail time. I am torn but am very worn out from begging for him to even give me $20 to help me and the kids. He refuses. What I want to know is where did everything go so terribly wrong one day we are the perfect happy family new home and 2 kids and the next day he is telling me the co-worker is who he wants to be with.
I agree with you completely I am not sure I will ever get over this devastation. I have told him even losing my parents did not effect me like this.
Spouses should have the heart and courage to do the right thing and not hurt somebody so terribly that it is life changing and soul wrenching.
Good Luck to you.

Titanium posted 6/21/2013 09:45 AM

Hailstormer.......success is the BEST revenge........dont let this shit from a bigtime shit stop you from getting out there and living the best years of your life.

I am done with my unremorseful WH .....donate your toys to the less fortunate.....she can have the garbage girl cause you are needed for much bettervthings in life and that includes a better man! Your gorgeous your awesome and you ROCK.......rock on and kick him forever.

Biggest hugs to you xxxxxx

Titanium posted 6/21/2013 09:53 AM

Mom of 2 you do the same. We are hot sexy gorgeous special gals that dumb fucks just couldnt see. So bugger them.......they have freed us for better things.....i have really
turned a corner since my WH shoved shit in my face AGAIN saying he does not like me checking his phone but says he has nothing to hide and doesnt trust me........doesnt TRUST ME??????????


GO FUCK YOURSELF i said......that was the final straw after what he has put me through. Financially destitute, photos of his penis in her mouth etc etc......

I am TOO GOOD for this arsehole of mine of 24 on i say.

We are women......hear us roar!!!!!!

Get ya bitch boots on girls and dont let them take anymore from you......they are worthless souls.


Jennifer99 posted 6/21/2013 09:56 AM

You know, I often have said about WH - there isn't anything more he can do to me. But then I think of some other stories I've heard and stop saying that.

IAmPsycho posted 6/21/2013 10:50 AM

This is eye opening for me. I stayed with my cheating spouse. It's been 12 years since DDAY, and I am still devastated many days. I always wonder what I could've accomplished in my life if I hadn't gone through this depressing betrayal.

And I always thought if I would've just divorced him, I wouldn't still be sad now. He would be out of my life right? But I see from your post that even D doesn't stop the pain.

Why do people destroy each other like this. It's so sad.

Newlease posted 6/21/2013 11:29 AM

A bit of a different perspective - I am 8 years out from the divorce.

After nearly 24 years of a very good marriage, the A and D were devastating. Nothing - no loss - has ever compared.

However, I am now extremely happy. And I take satisfaction from the fact that I survived and am now thriving. I do not let what happened to me define me other than to enjoy every moment as it comes. Tomorrow is not promised.

Whatever the future holds, I know I can handle it!

Sending strength and peace.


Tired05 posted 6/21/2013 11:33 AM

I agree with you. There are very few things I would have preferred my husband's actions over. I told him that I would have rather him be physically abusive to this. I can get over physical pain, emotional....

hailstormer posted 6/22/2013 22:55 PM

Titanium....Now I know what your name stands for.
Thanks for the boost I do have some better days now but a lot suck.
I cannot imagine your seeing pics so devastating. I just saw the hoe with see thru clothes on and fake tits I can't imagine your reaction. They call me psycho housewife I can't tell you what I would have done if I would have seen that. You see in my case I have a cocky skank that tells me all the time if I would have treated my WS better he would not be with her now......her mistake was one night she decided to come to my home and tell me that directly to my face need I say more that is the reason for my psycho nickname. Now if I would have seen his used penis in her mouth well then I might just have to post that as proof on Cheaterville then everyone could ck out the goods!
Good luck to you Titanium and thanks for the pep talk we should have reunion bitch parties for the betrayed it would be a good bitch fest!!!

[This message edited by hailstormer at 10:56 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)]

hailstormer posted 6/22/2013 23:03 PM

Titanium I also notice your homeland Australia.
Cool my son would love to go there and I hear the Great Whites swim freely.
So Bitch Fest in your country and feed the Great Whites all the used son fishes with hot dogs I am sure the sharks would love the generous donations we would have to feed them
That way all the skanks would be lonely nothing to play with anymore
Good thought huh?

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