BS 43 (me)
On behalf of your Mom, I apologize for the filth you had to see and carry away to the trash.
My stbx is a hoarder. He wouldn't let an old computer be thrown out. Well, my son from a previous marriage now wants the mother board to make a video game machine (think pinterest for geeks). Well, he discovered an old stack of floppy that had some of the old games he downloaded as a child. So he pops them in and discovered an underwear picture of me that his Dad had took. Yuk. I am so ashamed and embarrassed.
So again, I apologize for what you are going through
Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo