Yes, I'll back these posts up and add that I've also been told CS is top priority over other things a person may have for debts and whatnot.
I've also heard many instances of people making very long distance moves when S or D comes, thinking if everything is changed around them they can heal faster. Sometimes it works.
And yes, Perv is back to "Model Citizen Perv", doing good deeds for family and friends and it makes me kind of vomitty when I hear it. IC was helpful and said she suspects its out of guilt, because he also lied to those people for several years and she said it can be common...like Bark's WH thinking he's going to help his parents maybe.
It's frustrating to see and know is happening when we are abandoned or left behind and in need and we have to see them try to be something they aren't.
I did out him at DD's events, mostly wanting the parents of her friends to have a choice to make about trusting him because for a time he was inviting other kids on their outings.
And it happens here also, where a handful of events for DD he does not attend and if it is "his turn", I get uninvited, though I don't get in the way if he chooses to appear.
It just stinks...all around.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.