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cletuswv posted 6/21/2013 09:22 AM

Had DDay number 3 yesterday...she has a new AP she has been seeing while in house separation...for some reason this hurts more than her long distance LTA...perhaps because he is local...at any rate I am soliciting tips for dealing with anxiety...she moves out on July 1, but I have to deal with her seeing him until then and I don't know if I can make it the way I feel now.

Jennifer99 posted 6/21/2013 09:34 AM

Take a vacation?
Deep breathing?
Klonopin?
IC?
As strenuous exercise as you can stand?

cliffside posted 6/21/2013 09:46 AM

So sorry you've had to join our lovely club....

You have kids in your house, correct? Her seeing someone else right now is not in their best interest. Put her crap in hefty bags and tell her to go move in with her new AP. He should be happy to have her stay with him, right? Because he's probably not married (sarcasm).

Then change the locks. You're still married and there isn't room for a third person in the marriage and it's not healthy for your kids to witness this. Focus on you and your kids and get her out of the house now.

For the anxiety, you may want to get yourself to an IC and get meds. I had to and it has helped a ton. Until then, you can try GABA or Calms Forte. They can both be found in health stores. Calms is sold at most pharmacys in the sleep aid section but it works for anxiety too.

cletuswv posted 6/21/2013 10:10 AM

Thanks for the replies...I have been a member of this club for a while, but man when they say the process starts again at ground zero they were not kidding...I have been in IC since first DDay ... Just looking for a way to better cope with the initial shock...again