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STILLWANTHIM posted 6/21/2013 11:48 AM

I am completely lost. I truly believed we were heading toward R. This morning I discovered that my WH's online affair has started up again. I do not know for how long, he is at work and did not want to discuss it on the phone.

I do not know what to do, I just lost my job a week ago, we are deep in dept.

We had not told anyone about this because I believed we could work it out, but that will change now. Our children will be devastated.

confused615 posted 6/21/2013 11:53 AM

Ok..this is the time when you put your bitch boots on. When he comes home,be strong. Be firm. You tell him you will not share your husband with OW. Tell him he can either call her right NOW in front of you and tell her its over and any more contact will result in legal action,that she was a mistake and to never contact him again. If he refuses,tell him to get out. Then tell him your requirements for R,and if he wavers,tell him to get out.

He must give you all passwords and be fully transparent. Tell him any more bullshit and you're done..and you will tell the kids why their parents are divorcing.

Do not back down. Let him know you're not fooling around,he has one shot to get this right and if he can't then he needs to get out.

Is the OW married? If so,while he is at work today,call her husband and tell him of the affair. Offer to send him a copy of their emails. Out her. Do not tell your WH you're doing this,just do it.

Put your foot down. Go for shock and awe.

[This message edited by confused615 at 11:54 AM, June 21st (Friday)]

STILLWANTHIM posted 6/21/2013 12:12 PM

Thank you confused, I needed that.
The OW is separated from her husband, I have no idea how to to contact him. They are in Europe, We are in Canada, the affair hes been mostly online, except for a week in September when my WH went there to meet her.