You don't have to choose to let it affect you. Your right, she is responsible for her own happiness, as are you.
After an A it is so important to get to a place where both people can stand on their own two feet emotionally.
We are there to support each other and at different times we help carry a load, but the only person you can control is you and vice versa.
Nice lesson to live and learn at a young age!!
I used to try and be the fixer. I still have this problem with my son but I have to say he is guilty of it as well, even at age 10 lol.
I have found that I can't even put WH in that group of people I love so I listen and give extra hugs. He thinks I'm not objective. So I told him he can get IC to help him with his unhappiness problem then. I have a hard enough time trying to maintain my own sanity.
I told him he can get IC to help him with his unhappiness problem then
Infidelity is devastating. At least it was to me. It has been a LONG time since I have felt like my old, optimistic, positive self. I have been clinically depressed. While I know SAfWH can't "fix" me, I would hope he would support and help me, much as I did with him, while he was in his in his depressive state for so many years.