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Marley76 posted 6/21/2013 16:50 PM

It just blows my mind that that I really had no idea how cold this person I have been sharing a life with really is. I received a text message (cause that is the only way the coward communicates) from him re: bills and such. I am here trying to tie up loose end for him and make sure he's not left with no electricity and god dammed iTunes. And he mocks me. He called me mother Teresa and said he has been really good to me and my kids and that I should stop screwing HIM over. I've always paid my way in this relationship. We lived together and I paid half the rent and half the bills. I'm not paying the final bills on anything cause I didn't cause this seperation. And I'm taking all my furniture and my fridge. He is seeing this not as the committed relationship I thought it was but apparently like he was just having pity on me. Like im doing something to him cause im leaving and not putting up with his betrayals. But u know what. I told him- thank you for being kind to my children and I don't regret a thing. I appreciate the good person that you were. But this person in front of me I owe nothing too.
Sorry for the rant. It prob makes no sense. He's a narcissist and its still shocking to me.

Phoenix1 posted 6/21/2013 16:58 PM

BTDT...

I was paying for EVERYTHING this past year while POS was unemployed. When he walked out I not only cut him off, but I stopped paying all bills in his name. He was royally butt hurt and thought I was screwing him over. Um, no, I just stopped the gravy train when you left after being caught with OW#3, asshole! But because he is unemployed, he is getting screwed over, but it is not my problem as I was fired from being his "helpmate" in life. He is a big boy and will just have to figure it out on his own.

Rant on! The way these assholes skew reality to support their way of thinking is absolutely mind blowing!

Housefulloflove posted 6/22/2013 22:03 PM

When I got to the point of your post that said "he's a narcissist" I went aha....no wonder all of that was so familiar! I'm still shocked that when a poster seems to be posting about my stbx personally, they are usually also talking about someone who is a narc. They are jackasses with almost identical black souls.

It is amazing how "good" those masks they wore were in the beginning and how brilliant they are at distracting people from the cracks and eventually the large missing chunks of those masks they wear.

It's so hard to accept that people like them actually walk around pretending to be normal when really they are missing a huge part of what makes a human a human.

JessicaFL127 posted 6/23/2013 08:12 AM

Don't help him with anything. He is mocking you while you try to pay for his electric bill and his Itunes?? Fuck him, let him sing to himself in the dark.

sparkysable posted 6/23/2013 08:21 AM

my NPD XWH did the exact same thing.

It was so shocking to me how someone who allegedly loved me so much could turn on me like that.

Marley76 posted 6/23/2013 14:36 PM

I'm cracking up laughing thinking of his stupid ass sitting here in the dark with no furniture and a blank iPhone!!! Hahahahahah