So, things are progressing with the adoption of OC. OW is adamant that she has always, completely wanted her new H to adopt OC (new H is the father of her 2nd OC, they married after the birth).
I found out it is a very difficult process to do on your own, and it would require us all representing ourselves in court, face-to-face, so FWH and I decided to hire an attorney.
We found one that works for a flat fee, which although expensive, is much better than hourly.
She even allowed us to post date the check for the retainer, since we will not have any funds for this until July.
I have done 100% of the work. Corresponding with OW, attorney, ALL OF IT.
FWH went to the bank to have them cut him a check to send the attorney.
I did not go with him. I did not hold his fucking hand.
He forgot to post date the check.
We are now hundreds, and hundreds of dollars in the hole.
HE HAD ONE FUCKING JOB!
Seriously, here I am, cleaning up his mess. Finally making amends for the fact that he didn't wear a condom when he was fucking OW in the run down camper she lived in.
And he fucks this up, too.
So, now he's on his way to the ban to put a stop on the check, because the attorney is not returning our calls on this Friday evening.
I have written her and offered to cut her another check, with the correct date, but what is the likelihood that she is already spending the money? Would she drop us as clients over this?
How can he be so fucking stupid? He had one fucking job!! Dear Lord, is this man that I love really this big of an idiot?
Can he just NOT fuck things up for 5 minutes?
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
His OC born 2008/Adopted 2014
My Affair: 2015
Status: trying to pick up the pieces.