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Just having a rough night tonight. I received confirmation through a friend that OW has now moved to my city and in with STBX. I knew this was going to happen, but it still hurts so much. I'm out if state with the kids for the summer, but my stomach is in knots knowing that when we return my kids will be staying overnight with STBX and her. I'm just sick over it.

My poor dd who still desperately hopes that me and STBX will get back together now has to deal with the fact that dad has a slut that he put above his family. I haven't started talking to her about OW yet and meeting her. How do I go about this conversation with a 5 year old?

I know where you're coming from. I call OW whore, so you are being generous when you only call her a slut. STBX does not like that I call the OW a whore but tells me that whore will be part of our DD's life. Hard to swallow.

Just let your dd know that she can tell you ANYTHING if she does not feel comfortable with something while she is visiting with your EX-WS.

It's nice to know I'm not alone. My STBX says the same thing, that OW will be in our kids' lives and I just have to deal with it.

Has your dd met OW yet?

No, my dd has not met the whore. STBX says that he will wait about 6 months before introducing them so as not to confuse her too much, but who knows. He tells the whore that he has told his family about her, but I don't know if that means his whole family or just his own cheating sister.