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User Topic: Didn't know anything could make me happy right now, but....
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Evil  Posted: 8:12 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage picturing the look on WH's face when he comes home and finds me gone this week has me smiling in genuine amusement for the first time since I found out. I'm not giving the fucker any clues as to my whereabouts either. I just plan to tack a copy of the juciest bits of conversation between him and that part- time bedspread of his to the fridge before I leave.

Also, another thing that made me laugh today was when I got on our shared computer and he leaves the colleague he's meeting with in the living room, rushes over all out of breath, going: "Did I log out of my Facebook, babe?"

Yeah, fucker, you did. About three weeks too late.

I actually kind of feel sorry for him now. Watching him bumble around, all puffed up with his own self-righteousness, is going to make the shock that much worse. And it's all going to really blow up in his face. Asshole.

Some background:

Yes, I am devastated, but part of me couldn't be more thrilled to kick this dead weight to the curb. I've been raised all my life to believe that marriage is supposed to be this wonderful reward for being modest and and chaste and being a good girl. After only six months of marriage I know better now!! And he's always made me feel so shitty !for not being " spiritual " enough and not being a "good spiritual partner." I cannot wait to spit it all back in his $face!!

.....okay, so my happiness IS a bit on the vindictive side. I'll indulge just for today.

Posts: 38 | Registered: Jun 2013
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You sound stronger Frankie - good! The WS often beats a BS down verbally, in part to justify their cheating in their own head - in part to keep you in self doubt, and worrying about your behavior instead of theirs. It can really wear you down long term - It's good that you see it!

Got your passport? Some money? Your evidence - all secured (flash drive back up?) where he can not possibly find it? ((frankiebaby)) Stay strong!

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this so soon after getting married to this ass clown. It is helpful to look at the humerous side while wearing your bitch boots however. I would love to be a fly on the wall when he sees that on the fridge. He is not worth the effort. Just be glad that you have not been married for a long time with children to also deal with. You deserve so much more than this stupid fucker can give you ever. Let us know how it turns out and keep your chin up and those boots on. It will get worse before it gets better, but you can do it. ((((HUGS))))

BS-55 XWH#2-No longer my monkey
M-11yrs LTA-5yrs Divorced 8/15
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"

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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome, Frankie! Though this is nothing like marriage is supposed to be, it is WONDERFUL that you see that, and are unwilling to settle for what he's chosen to give you. You're very strong!

BS-me, 55; WX-irrelevant
Divorced after an eternity
"So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tenn

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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have fantasized often about doing things like this. Slapping divorce papers in front of him, just going on a well deserved weekend vacation without telling him. I am always super happy when I fantasize, so I can only imagine how I would feel if I actually did one.

Together 6 yrs. M 4 yrs. DD born 3/1/2013.
Me: BS -- Him: 1 EA/PA (6mos), PA (MW), and 6 ONS...Been at it for almost 5 yrs. *Still slave to TT* 1st DDay- 11/24/2012,
.....OC due in August.....

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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Take care of yourself through this. While you are coping with things now, expect that your emotions will still be some on the roller coaster. You are strong, I just wanted to make sure you expect it some too. Hugs to you.

Me-54 BS
Him 61-WS
Married 34 yrs, together 37
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

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Rise And Shine
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll indulge just for today.

There has always been a special place in my heart for the BS's who indulge.

April 25, 2009

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Default  Posted: 9:51 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Frankiebaby, I am so jealous of you. I *wish* I could have posted it in a fridge and have him find out while I disappeared. Instead I confronted immediately and been regretting how I handled DDay ever since.

You have the RIGHT plan. It would be better if you could serve divorce papers at the same time when he notices you are gone.

Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

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