You fired me from that job
Perfect!
I have rearranged my routines/schedule to be as nearly opposite him I can. I do stay in my room mostly so my son refers to our time together as "visiting mommy in her room".
I work all day and do school work all night or run with my son. I go away almost all weekend every weekend, sometimes with my son, sometimes not.
So far this weekend its been better.
I finally told him I have been going to IC. Now he blames "that woman" (IC doc) for me being "cold". I told him no, that would be "that OTHER woman and you".
Its hard when my son wants us to do things together. I begged off an excursion last weekend blaming school work. So this weekend when another excursion was scheduled I had to spend the day with them. My son was happy. I stayed as disconnected from WH as possible. I did get a "thank you" for going
Next weekend will be worse. Its a preplanned, prebought trip with my family. He begged off last year saying he had to work and they crucified him for it. I don't think he'll skip going this year. I've thought about offering his ticket to one of my son's friends and telling my family that I didn't want him to come but then that would start a pile of stuff I don't want.
I've thought about printing out the one thing I've seen here on SI - its got the 4 something before R?? Honesty and transparency are in there. I thought I might give it to him and say when you can meet this - then you can talk to me about us - then we'll see if we can still be friends and go from there.
Honestly right now I wish I could get him to leave me alone all the time so I can focus on me.
I repeated that to him last night when he was trying to pick a fight with me about me going to IC. I told him - shocker - that this was nothing about him, it was about me, for me and to stay the hell out of it, pretty much what I've been asking him to do for months now.
It'll work for a little bit, then it won't, he'll start trying to be nice, pack my lunch, check on me if I'm too quiet, sneak up on me in the shower.
For a little bit I thought all those things meant there was an us. Until I found SI and started reading. Now I know what it will take for me to feel better and he won't even want to hear it and now he'll think my IC put me up to it. At least I won't have to tell him about SI.