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User Topic: Sex life
painpaingoaway
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Wink  Posted: 9:09 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For those in R, on a scale of 1 to 10, how do you rate your sex life?
I rate ours as a 10+

Anyone other brave souls out there willing to answer?


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7140 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would say 8. The husband is a bit kinkier than I like and though I do indulge him it would be nice if we explored what I might like a little more. #blush We have always been active people.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

Posts: 361 | Registered: May 2013
struggling3
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto on that 10 plus!!! Always has been. We both marvel at the intensity and total satisfaction after almost 35 years together. Something to be said for totally knowing somebody and their body!!!


Me - BS 55
H - WS 57/very remorseful and supportive
Kids 29, 26, 22
D-Day 8-5-11
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic

Posts: 331 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
atsenaotie
♂ 27650
Member # 27650
Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

6, but considering we were asexual the last few years before (and again after) dday I guess this is an improvement? The intimacy was never there for her and has not come back for me.


LTA FBS 54
dday 10.5.09
Separated and Divorcing

Posts: 4148 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL
scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

-10. Non existent...


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 3782 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would say a 7 right now. It's been higher throughout our marriage, but currently my wife is dealing with some health issues. No issues related to infidelity.


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


Posts: 5720 | Registered: Aug 2007
painpaingoaway
♀ 27196
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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry scaredykat but I'm glad to see so many others in R doing well in that department. Hopefully this will be encouraging for others.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7140 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yesh, a 10+ for us, too! Before d-day, -10.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9952 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
WhatsRight
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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you all!!!!!

Such fabulous news!

I'm in the same boad as skaredykat - nonexhistant.

But, I'm very happy for you!!!

[This message edited by WhatsRight at 10:01 AM, June 22nd (Saturday)]


"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy


Posts: 1889 | Registered: Apr 2012
Yakamishi
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Easily a 10. Better and more intimate. And more wild in some ways. HB for the win!

There are still times the mind movies start to play while I'm with WW, but I try to push it out.


Me: BH
Her: WW Mrs.yaka
Kids:4
Variouse clues to EA. WW promised it would stop.
D-Day of EA 9/13/2012 2:01PM found 2 yrs of text messages, confessed to EA
D-Day of PA: confessed on 9/22/12 11:53 PM. Worst moment of my life

Posts: 222 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Massachusetts
TXBW68
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We were a 10+ up to 3 weeks before DDay when he cut me off completely. That's one of the many reasons I never had a clue about his goings-ons until then!

Now, we still hit 10+ most of the time. But for me, sometimes I'm at a 5 or 6. I don't think he notices every time it happens, but he has noticed. I still get mind movies regularly.

I know exactly what he did with OW#1 but I didn't ask for details about 2-4. So I wonder if he did this move or that move to them. Did he cuddle with #4 afterwards since they were "in lurve"?

Hopefully, one day the movies will go away!!!

I'm happy so many of you guys are 10s! Yay HB!!

[This message edited by TXBW68 at 1:55 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)]


Me (46) WH (42),2 boys 15 & 11
M 18yrs T 22yrs
Separated 10 months (4/12 to 2/13)
Final Total - #1/#2 ONS and #3/#4 EA/PA - left me for #4, didn't know about #2 and 3 until he moved back home
We are solidly in R now

Posts: 792 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Dallas, TX
LA44
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today: 8-9/10

Before D-Day: 3-4/10 but it was improving in 2012 when I still did not know about the A.

I missed sex but couldn't/didn't tell him that. I feel as though finding out about the A broke me open and allowed me to release anger and break free from things holding me back.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2616 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
sailorgirl
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre-A: 10+
During A: 5
Post d-day: 8

HB was hot, but nothing has been as good as sex pre-A. I was not at all a virgin when I met WH, so I don't know why I felt that what we had was "pure" but I did.


Married 14 years, three amazing kids
H had 17 month EA/PA
D-day 1/5/13
Reconcilling

Posts: 787 | Registered: Jan 2013
catlover50
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

10+ and going strong!



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1823 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
torn2pieces
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

10++.....still have the mind movies but working on that.

Posts: 43 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: torn2pieces
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..i'll let-yaz-all-know in an hour or so!!!

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4134 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
tuscandreamer
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm with scaredKat, -10. Non-existent. Too many issues that aren't resolved. Just don't feel the connection.


BS 47
WH 44
Dday #1 6/20/07, Dday #2 (different OW) 5/16/09
3 DDs (14, 9, 7)
Reconciling???

Posts: 482 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Canada
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, June 22nd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pre A 8-9
During A 6-7
Post dday early R 10
4.5 years post dday +++1000

Seriously. It's been crazy hot lately. He knows me so well. Nothing like having an A with your spouse.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8798 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

..i'll let-yaz-all-know in an hour or so!!!
well, SMY, you still alive?
And tushnurse,
+++1000
um, and just what kind of vitamins are y'all taking? Sometimes I feel like ours is +1000 too! I would have never dreamed that sex in our 50's could get hotter than in our 20's. It's fucking amazing, literally.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7140 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, June 23rd (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


..........O ........M ........G

..it's past NOON already???


..(pinching self)....yes, i am still alive!!!

..the math teacher in me wishes to report a '10 to the power of 3', aka 10 cubed or 10 exponent 3, numerically = 1000..

..still alive.......but barely!!!!

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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