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painpaingoaway (original poster member #27196) posted at 3:09 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
For those in R, on a scale of 1 to 10, how do you rate your sex life?
I rate ours as a 10+ 
Anyone other brave souls out there willing to answer?
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
struggling3 ( member #34671) posted at 3:13 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
Ditto on that 10 plus!!! Always has been. We both marvel at the intensity and total satisfaction after almost 35 years together. Something to be said for totally knowing somebody and their body!!!
Me - BS 58
H - WS 60/very remorseful and supportive
discovered 4 month long EA
R - slow and steady but very optimistic
cuppacoffee ( member #39313) posted at 3:13 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
I would say 8. The husband is a bit kinkier than I like and though I do indulge him it would be nice if we explored what I might like a little more. #blush We have always been active people.
I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you
atsenaotie ( member #27650) posted at 3:14 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
6, but considering we were asexual the last few years before (and again after) dday I guess this is an improvement? The intimacy was never there for her and has not come back for me.
LTA FBS
dday 10.5.09
Divorced
Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 3:15 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
Me-BS-71 in May HIM-SAFWH-74 I just wanted a normal life.Normal trauma would have been appreciated.
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 3:19 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
I would say a 7 right now. It's been higher throughout our marriage, but currently my wife is dealing with some health issues. No issues related to infidelity.
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
painpaingoaway (original poster member #27196) posted at 3:24 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
I'm sorry scaredykat 
but I'm glad to see so many others in R doing well in that department. Hopefully this will be encouraging for others. 
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 3:55 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
Yesh, a 10+ for us, too! Before d-day, -10.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 4:00 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
Good for you all!!!!!
Such fabulous news!
I'm in the same boad as skaredykat - nonexhistant.
But, I'm very happy for you!!!
[This message edited by WhatsRight at 10:01 AM, June 22nd (Saturday)]
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
Yakamishi ( member #38230) posted at 4:34 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
Easily a 10. Better and more intimate. And more wild in some ways. HB for the win!
There are still times the mind movies start to play while I'm with WW, but I try to push it out.
Me: BH
Her: WW Mrs.yaka
Kids:4
Variouse clues to EA. WW promised it would stop.
D-Day of EA 9/13/2012 2:01PM found 2 yrs of text messages, confessed to EA
D-Day of PA: confessed on 9/22/12 11:53 PM. Worst moment of my life
TXBW68 ( member #36456) posted at 7:53 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
We were a 10+ up to 3 weeks before DDay when he cut me off completely. That's one of the many reasons I never had a clue about his goings-ons until then!
Now, we still hit 10+ most of the time. But for me, sometimes I'm at a 5 or 6. I don't think he notices every time it happens, but he has noticed. I still get mind movies regularly.
I know exactly what he did with OW#1 but I didn't ask for details about 2-4. So I wonder if he did this move or that move to them. Did he cuddle with #4 afterwards since they were "in lurve"?
Hopefully, one day the movies will go away!!!
I'm happy so many of you guys are 10s! Yay HB!!
[This message edited by TXBW68 at 1:55 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)]
Me (46) WH (42),2 boys 15 & 11
M 18yrs T 22yrs
Separated 10 months (4/12 to 2/13)
Final Total - #1/#2 ONS and #3/#4 EA/PA - left me for #4, didn't know about #2 and 3 until he moved back home
We are solidly in R now
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 8:01 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
Today: 8-9/10
Before D-Day: 3-4/10 but it was improving in 2012 when I still did not know about the A.
I missed sex but couldn't/didn't tell him that. I feel as though finding out about the A broke me open and allowed me to release anger and break free from things holding me back.
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
sailorgirl ( member #38162) posted at 9:33 PM on Saturday, June 22nd, 2013
Pre-A: 10+
During A: 5
Post d-day: 8
HB was hot, but nothing has been as good as sex pre-A. I was not at all a virgin when I met WH, so I don't know why I felt that what we had was "pure" but I did.
Married 14 years, three amazing kids
H had 17 month EA/PA
D-day 1/5/13
Reconcilling
catlover50 ( member #37154) posted at 12:25 AM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
10+ and going strong!
Dday -9/23/2012
Reconciled
torn2pieces ( new member #39029) posted at 2:40 AM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
10++.....still have the mind movies but working on that.
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 2:51 AM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
..i'll let-yaz-all-know in an hour or so!!! 
smy 
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
tuscandreamer ( member #17406) posted at 3:04 AM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
I'm with scaredKat, -10. Non-existent. Too many issues that aren't resolved. Just don't feel the connection.
BS 52
WH 49
Dday #1 6/20/07, Dday #2 (different OW) 5/16/09
3 DDs (19, 14, 12)
Reconciling???
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 3:52 AM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
Pre A 8-9
During A 6-7
Post dday early R 10
4.5 years post dday +++1000
Seriously. It's been crazy hot lately. He knows me so well. Nothing like having an A with your spouse.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
painpaingoaway (original poster member #27196) posted at 1:55 PM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
..i'll let-yaz-all-know in an hour or so!!!
well, SMY, you still alive?
And tushnurse,
+++1000
um, and just what kind of vitamins are y'all taking? Sometimes I feel like ours is +1000 too! I would have never dreamed that sex in our 50's could get hotter than in our 20's. It's fucking amazing, literally.
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 5:52 PM on Sunday, June 23rd, 2013
..........O 
........M ........G
..it's past NOON already???
..(pinching self)....yes, i am still alive!!!
..the math teacher in me wishes to report a '10 to the power of 3', aka 10 cubed or 10 exponent 3, numerically = 1000..
..still alive.......but barely!!!!
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
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