"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

painpaingoaway posted 6/22/2013 09:09 AM

For those in R, on a scale of 1 to 10, how do you rate your sex life?
I rate ours as a 10+

Anyone other brave souls out there willing to answer?

struggling3 posted 6/22/2013 09:13 AM

Ditto on that 10 plus!!! Always has been. We both marvel at the intensity and total satisfaction after almost 35 years together. Something to be said for totally knowing somebody and their body!!!

cuppacoffee posted 6/22/2013 09:13 AM

I would say 8. The husband is a bit kinkier than I like and though I do indulge him it would be nice if we explored what I might like a little more. #blush We have always been active people.

atsenaotie posted 6/22/2013 09:14 AM

6, but considering we were asexual the last few years before (and again after) dday I guess this is an improvement? The intimacy was never there for her and has not come back for me.

Lionne posted 6/22/2013 09:15 AM

-10. Non existent...

HardenMyHeart posted 6/22/2013 09:19 AM

I would say a 7 right now. It's been higher throughout our marriage, but currently my wife is dealing with some health issues. No issues related to infidelity.

painpaingoaway posted 6/22/2013 09:24 AM

I'm sorry scaredykat but I'm glad to see so many others in R doing well in that department. Hopefully this will be encouraging for others.

SisterMilkshake posted 6/22/2013 09:55 AM

Yesh, a 10+ for us, too! Before d-day, -10.

WhatsRight posted 6/22/2013 10:00 AM

Good for you all!!!!!

Such fabulous news!

I'm in the same boad as skaredykat - nonexhistant.

But, I'm very happy for you!!!

[This message edited by WhatsRight at 10:01 AM, June 22nd (Saturday)]

Yakamishi posted 6/22/2013 10:34 AM

Easily a 10. Better and more intimate. And more wild in some ways. HB for the win!

There are still times the mind movies start to play while I'm with WW, but I try to push it out.

TXBW68 posted 6/22/2013 13:53 PM

We were a 10+ up to 3 weeks before DDay when he cut me off completely. That's one of the many reasons I never had a clue about his goings-ons until then!

Now, we still hit 10+ most of the time. But for me, sometimes I'm at a 5 or 6. I don't think he notices every time it happens, but he has noticed. I still get mind movies regularly.

I know exactly what he did with OW#1 but I didn't ask for details about 2-4. So I wonder if he did this move or that move to them. Did he cuddle with #4 afterwards since they were "in lurve"?

Hopefully, one day the movies will go away!!!

I'm happy so many of you guys are 10s! Yay HB!!

[This message edited by TXBW68 at 1:55 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)]

LA44 posted 6/22/2013 14:01 PM

Today: 8-9/10

Before D-Day: 3-4/10 but it was improving in 2012 when I still did not know about the A.

I missed sex but couldn't/didn't tell him that. I feel as though finding out about the A broke me open and allowed me to release anger and break free from things holding me back.

sailorgirl posted 6/22/2013 15:33 PM

Pre-A: 10+
During A: 5
Post d-day: 8

HB was hot, but nothing has been as good as sex pre-A. I was not at all a virgin when I met WH, so I don't know why I felt that what we had was "pure" but I did.

catlover50 posted 6/22/2013 18:25 PM

10+ and going strong!

torn2pieces posted 6/22/2013 20:40 PM

10++.....still have the mind movies but working on that.

somanyyears posted 6/22/2013 20:51 PM

..i'll let-yaz-all-know in an hour or so!!!

smy

tuscandreamer posted 6/22/2013 21:04 PM

I'm with scaredKat, -10. Non-existent. Too many issues that aren't resolved. Just don't feel the connection.

tushnurse posted 6/22/2013 21:52 PM

Pre A 8-9
During A 6-7
Post dday early R 10
4.5 years post dday +++1000

Seriously. It's been crazy hot lately. He knows me so well. Nothing like having an A with your spouse.

painpaingoaway posted 6/23/2013 07:55 AM

..i'll let-yaz-all-know in an hour or so!!!

well, SMY, you still alive?
And tushnurse,

+++1000

um, and just what kind of vitamins are y'all taking? Sometimes I feel like ours is +1000 too! I would have never dreamed that sex in our 50's could get hotter than in our 20's. It's fucking amazing, literally.

somanyyears posted 6/23/2013 11:52 AM

..........O ........M ........G

..it's past NOON already???

..(pinching self)....yes, i am still alive!!!

..the math teacher in me wishes to report a '10 to the power of 3', aka 10 cubed or 10 exponent 3, numerically = 1000..

..still alive.......but barely!!!!

smy